I have visited this forum many times, another guppie introduced me to this forum, been a silent observer, but decided to write today. It is a strange time in my life because I am not happy. It seems like its over between me & my hubby!
I have been married many years, have a kid too, but it seems that its not clicking any more. He has become very moody & would not even talk…becomes very introvert.
Ok you all will say its may be because of me. May be but the guy should say something about it. For God sake talk! How will I know…this is what
I feel like yelling right now. Not looking forward to the long weekend at home too. Oh I love my sweet child so much and I want things to work between me & hubby. But today it feels like that its over!
And you wonder why I open up threads asking how it is after marriage! :(
Walking on Water, I think you ought to at least communicate with the guy about your feelings. Have you asked him what is wrong? Have you openly told him its worrying you and how things are going in your relationship with him?
Maybe he's upset over other things in life, or having one of those transitional moments in life where its sinking in that he's got a family to take care of and its no longer all about him. Maybe trouble at work? Maybe he feels bad that he's aging? Maybe he got in a fight with a friend or family member?
WoW - Welcome to Gupshup. I hope you have a great time here...looks like you can use some. :)
Well, too little background information to give you any kind of useful advice. But stay strong. Make the right decision for yourself (FIRST) and your son. Don't rush into things. Take your time and think through it.
Salaam.
Ive read ur story and i know how its feel. Im also married and had these things 2 anywayz its about you now. In ur post you tell your hubby dont talk to you he is moody you ever asked him why he is like this? He says nothing 2 you why you dont say to him to talk and tell him what bothers him. Ur rite if he doesnt say anything how will you know whats wrong with him. But try to talk wid ur hubby I hope for u Insh'Allah everything will be fine.
Thanks for the welcome. Last night I kept on talking but his answers were yea. no ok something like that. Basically, I kept saying things to start a conversation but nothing in return! I wish it was not a weekend and that too a long one!
Nilu: trust me I am trying. Sometimes I feel that its all about him.
Really what do I want in my life? It was an arranged marriage. Worked fine in the begining but now after all those years...
Funguy: I can certainly use some fun time something to cheer me up. My kiddo right now is the light of my life. Thanks for the welcome. I kind of agree with you, I feel it should be about ME first.
PyariCgudia: I am sorry dear. Did not see your thread earlier otherwise would have used it. Don't get disappionted, your experience may be a great one. I agree he must be upset about something but I think we should be solving the problem togather not him doing all math in his head.
I agree wid Gudia many things could be in his mind.
But some man's dont talk about the things what happend
wid his friend, family or whatever. Perhaps its better not to ask
maybe he will tell you self what happends.
And it doesnt matter if it is arrange marriage our love.
In all relationship you have ups & downs.
Allah is wid you and Insh'Allah everything will be fine :)
Thank you all for posting replies & showing concerns. I did talk to my parents. I am getting people invollved in this matter. May be running away would be an act of buzdali. So before I do anything that will shatter my kid's life, I make sure its right.
Guess for yourself what could have gone wrong? Try asking him if he is upset on a thing you have done and truly be worried about it. Say sorry and let him know he matters to you more than anything. Communicate and seek the truth before you decide anything final.
I will go with what sadzzz has said.. usually guys don’t like their family to be in stress by telling them about their work related stress in hopes that you won’t get tensed because of him
I knw, in your case it has given you even more stress but i guess give him a garam cup of chai and ask him about his work and get him to talk to you on any topic.. once he starts talking (even about cricket :)) he will automatically come to the problem too.. i am sure its nothing to do with you just some other external stress that is bothering him alot
That’s good. Sometimes its good to talk to someone who understands you and your situation.
Maybe he wants to be left alone for a while, have you ever thought about that? Most men don’t talk about their problems. Try being there for him when he needs to talk, but dont nag him.
Thank you again for the kind words.
Cat-woman: I am hanging in there and just doing what I am supposed to do. I hope so too that things will start getting back to where they were. I involved family in it.
Ansoon: I am tryimg my best.
Ghulail: No that is not correct. It was a she who introduced me to this website. & I decided to vent out here.
Muniya: I followed your advice & he did ask me why are you quite Atleast he said something.
ok maybe you guys need some time alone. Uh alright it might not be the best of ideas, but perhaps you need to be away from him for a couple of days.
But you have to get him to talk, obviously its serious. Something is on his mind, ask him to share it with you.
But I think things like this happen in marriage, Ive seen it plenty of times with my friends. But Im sure he will open up to you, you just have to keep asking him.
Atleast he said something.