ok, this is something i’ve thought of often and struggled with and i was reminded of it when i read Dushwari’s thread
i posted it in my journal, but no one but Muniya( ) responded
do you ever feel like you shouldn’t make dua b/c you have no right to ask God for help when you don’t fulfill some of his most basic requests?
it’s like…let’s say i’ve missed my namaz for a while…or some other thing…i don’t know what, but it’s not an appropriate thing astaghfirullah
but then there is a test coming up…or i’ve gotten behind at school…or i’m driving and i get lost…or i’m about to be late…or my parents are going to be REALLY, REALLY mad at me for something…or i’m really miserable b/c of my period (i get really sick sometimes…a LOT of pain)…etc…etc (some of these sound like small, small things, but we all know there are many things to freak about in life…i’m talking about things that just make you feel utterly desperate and helpless)
and so i’m sitting here, begging God, please please help me…of course it’s my first reaction
but then i feel like utter $hit, b/c i feel like i’m trying to use God…and then i feel like i have no right to ask him for anything…but then i think, but Allah (swt) is all merciful, all knowing, all powerful, and there for us, but i still feel like i don’t have the right to ask Him anything…why should he help me when i only remember him when i need something
such feeling come n go.they can't stop u from askin Allah for something when u r in need.n guilt feelings can help one improve.rather than ok i'm bad muslim not asking to Allah mian anymore.
714, you are a very nice person from heart, mashAllah. A lot of people like me don't even consider this and take everything good from Allah for granted. May Allah forgive me.
Sister, it is mentioned in the Quran the example of some people sailing in a boat peacefully and they don't remember Allah but everything else in life, but when a storm comes and their boat is traped, they started begging from Allah to save them, and if Allah saevs them they would sincerely follow Allah's orders in future, but when Allah help them in reaching their destination safely, they again forget Allah. That is why Allah call them un thankful for everything Allah has blessed them with.
The best way is to realize one's mistake, immediately do "Astaghfar" and try not to repeat those mistakes in future. I know it is not possible to suddenly follow each and every order of Allah, but we can atleast try our level best with sincerity as much as we can. Infact your guilty feelings would help you in motivating yourself not to repeat your mistakes. Also Allah loves our guilty feelings and repenting. Infact not doing dua is an additional sin, so we should immediately do tauba after a sin and try our best to control our desires next time.
In one of the hadiths the prophet (saw) mentioned that if you would not sin, Allah would bring in place of you a nation who would sin and ask for forgiveness. This doesn't mean one should sin, but here the importance of "Astaghfar" and repentence is mentioned, as it is not possible to not sin at all and live a perfect life.
Imaan is between "Hope of forgiveness of Allah" and "Fear of Allah's punishment"
714, I think thats why Allah is Rehmaan and Raheem. And we are just mere human beings, full of errors. He will listen to us, even if we don't listen to everything He asked us to do. There is another thread here about not being afraid to make dua. Some good stuff there too.
^ Thanks for the correction brother, I have edited the post :)
@714. According to a hadith we should convert our bad deeds into good ones. For example, if we did not pray one time, we should pray that namaz also and do additional nawafils, if we missed reading Quran one day, than the next day we must read additional quran to compensate for that mistake.
Also according to some scholars we should punish ourselves whenever we disobey Allah. For example, after missing namaz don't watch your favourite drama that day. In this way our body would not show laziness and we would be able to control our desires as well
I guess most of what I wanted to say has already been mentioned by STP & Faisal…
I will share one small little thing.
What do you think of a mother? A mother’s love? Who put the love of the mother for her child in her heart? We know, He’s none other than Allah:swt:…
According a Hadith-e-Qudsi Allah:swt: says, “I was a hidden treasure, and I wished that I be recognized, and this is why I created.” Hence the reason for creation was love.
This hadith further tells us that Allah:swt: divided His Mercy into seventy parts, and distributed one of those parts in the creation around us.
Now see it with the point of view of a mother. Even if her child disobeys her, she will continute to love him and will listen and try to fulfil whatever he asks…
Now if mother scolds him for anything, you will see child has no place but to go back to mother… so we dun have anyone even if we are disobeying Him but to go back to Allah:swt: ..
Remember He’s As-Samad … He does not need our good deeds.. we need those.. so we should repent in every dua of us.. as there are several of duas in Quran on the topic of repentence itself ..
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