I feel like I am at a point where no matter how near and dear I keep some reationships to me, mainly friendships, they always turn against me. I may have some weird persona of myself which isnt true, I dont know.
people tend to vanish from my life and when I keep texting, calling, I am ignored, thats not cool, maybe I am just not worthy and that is their way of letting me go. I habr never been anything short of supporting to people, but that is not good enough.
i will stop trying
No deed goes unpunished. You need to more selfish.
How so?
More and more people have become very goal oriented. Gone are the days when it was easy to find someone who would have a conversation for the sake of having a conversation or be nice for the sake of being nice. I’m not saying meaningful conversations don’t take place anymore or no one is nice anymore, but now there is always an underlying goal when that happens. Except of course when it comes to our parents and few genuine people in our lives. Basically the moment we loose the potential of being useful to someone, people don’t hesitate to make it known to us.
turn against how though?
Looks like men are having this problem on a larger scale
https://www.nytimes.com/2022/11/28/well/family/male-friendship-loneliness.html
