never call them wrong or unjust."
Do you see any flaws in this statement?
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**not one bit...its Allah's commandment. we have been ordered by Allah in the Qur'aan-e-Kareem that we must obey our parents and never talk to them even in a loud tone. we must treat them lovingly, compassionately and responsibly and thats why giving zakaat to parents is NOT allowed while to every other relationship its allowed. parents are childrens responsibility.
there is only one exception and that is if parents order you to do things that are not permissible in islam and the best example is Hazrat IbraHeem [a.s.]**
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In public its valid. In private set them straight.
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**not one bit...its Allah's commandment. we have been ordered by Allah in the Qur'aan-e-Kareem that we must obey our parents and never talk to them even in a loud tone. we must treat them lovingly, compassionately and responsibly and thats why giving zakaat to parents is NOT allowed while to every other relationship its allowed. parents are childrens responsibility.
there is only one exception and that is if parents order you to do things that are not permissible in islam and the best example is Hazrat IbraHeem [a.s.]**
But where does it say that we can't call them wrong or unjust? Islam is all about justice, right?
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**Parents or siblings are human beings and they do make mistakes too.........letting them know they made a mistake or were wrong or unjust does not imply that we are disobeying them **
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never call them wrong or unjust."
Do you see any flaws in this statement?
Yes. Humans make mistakes and need to be set right.
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Well said Sheyn. :k:
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In public its valid. In private set them straight.
+1
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I tell my parents when they are wrong..coz sometimes they think that they can NEVER make a mistake...coz EVERYONE makes mistakes.
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If it is something trivial let it slide. If they can get embarrassed in front of others on the basis of that mistake then let them know politely and respectfully. You do not have to make them lose their face.
If it is something big and they knowingly are making doing that wrong thing or making that mistake then you can confront them but again respectfully but firmly.
Re: "no matter how wrong your parents and siblings are....
**not one bit...its Allah's commandment. we have been ordered by Allah in the Qur'aan-e-Kareem that we must obey our parents and never talk to them even in a loud tone. we must treat them lovingly, compassionately and responsibly and thats why giving zakaat to parents is NOT allowed while to every other relationship its allowed. parents are childrens responsibility.
there is only one exception and that is if parents order you to do things that are not permissible in islam and the best example is Hazrat IbraHeem [a.s.]**
It doesn't apply in cases where kids are being oppressed either.. Parents aren't always right, that's why we're allowed to appoint another wali if our real guardian isn't treating us fairly..
If the bit in red was true we would be obligated to marry people our parents want which obviously isn't true.. Parents do have a lot of rights but so do their kids..
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It has never worked that way in my family. If I'm wrong, my parents (especially my mom) will tell me so. She'll tell me I'm wrong or where I went wrong. She won't defend me blindly just because I'm her daughter. Same thing with my siblings. It's the same way with our parents. If they're wrong, I tell them.
Yes, I believe the statement is flawed. Family is supposed to be supportive. And to me, being supportive (among many things) also includes helping you to become a better person. If you care about someone, you don't want them to engage in actions or uphold attitudes that are harmful. One of the best aspects about family is that there's usually a greater comfort level in voicing your opinions. There's no need for the pretense that is found in other relationships. It's never easy to hear from others (especially family) that you're wrong. It can be hard to swallow as it hurts your pride and ego, but it's a part of tough love. The manner in which you express your opinions can also make a difference. For example, public embarrassment can make matters worse.
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In public its valid. In private set them straight.
I totally agree.
I must say that it also depends on the severity of thier crime... God forbid if it warrants severe punishment then I'd rather be the one that gives them their punishment than anyone else.
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In public its valid. In private set them straight.
Agree, although even then only if it is really serious.
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wrong statement......if its wrong...its wrong.....'calling it' could mean different things to different people.....you must admit it, and try your best to tell them and correct it......but do that in a considerate way.....
and parents and siblings can't be clubbed together.......
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I think part of being a family is caring enough to stop people when they're doing something wrong. If it was a stranger, I wouldnt care and it wouldnt bother me one bit.
But if its my family...be it parents or siblings...I care enough to tell them they're wrong and need to correct themselves.
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Parents will never be unjust to their children, knowingly. I guess there can be exceptions, but rarely.
But they can be wrong, and yes it's good to politely tell them but don't expect them to change. They have been through all the ups and downs/ rights and wrongs in life, its kind of hard to change after that.