How would you feel if you were not given an official card invitation to a wedding? What if the bride/groom/their respective families asked you to come in person or even texted you the details? What if they stated that they have either no invitations left, or they didn’t have time to deliver the invitation?
Would you consider it an invitation, or would it feel slightly awkward if you attended? If you attended, would you take anybody with you?
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As long as it comes from the family, it's an invitation. Sometimes people really do run out of cards. The only thing I would have a problem with is if an invitation was relayed through someone else, like a mutual friend saying "the family invited me and they said to invite you too". But if you actually want to go, then just be generous with the gift, trust me, you'll always be welcome after that!
If you were invited directly, just ask if you can bring someone. Most invitations include a guest.
I understand that some people are sensitive to this stuff. A few friends told me they wouldn't be able to come to my wedding when I told them the date, so in the planning chaos I didn't make delivery of their cards a priority. Some of them were offended, but I think that's ridiculous.
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Texting, calling or emailing invitations is inappropriate for a formal wedding, IMHO, and can really only apply to immediate family and very close friends. For acquaintances, it's ridiculous and verges on rude because it is clear that your invitation is an after thought which is why there are no invitations left/there is no time to mail them. If your attendance is that important to them, they would have already mailed you a card.
And if, as a bride or groom, you run out of cards, well maybe you shouldn't be inviting people as an after thought, should have counted your guest list properly, and/or ordered extras if you weren't sure of what your final numbers would be. Ordering 25 or 50 extra cards isn't going to break anyone's budget. It's called etiquette. It is not acceptable to dismiss common courtesy because of poor planning on your part, nor can you take any kind of offence if the texted guest decides to forgo your last minute invite.
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I wouldn't make a big deal about it. If I'm free, I'll go. If not, I won't go.
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Texting, calling or emailing invitations is inappropriate for a formal wedding, IMHO, and can really only apply to immediate family and very close friends. For acquaintances, it's ridiculous and verges on rude because it is clear that your invitation is an after thought which is why there are no invitations left/there is no time to mail them. If your attendance is that important to them, they would have already mailed you a card.
And if, as a bride or groom, you run out of cards, well maybe you shouldn't be inviting people as an after thought, should have counted your guest list properly, and/or ordered extras if you weren't sure of what your final numbers would be. Ordering 25 or 50 extra cards isn't going to break anyone's budget. It's called etiquette. It is not acceptable to dismiss common courtesy because of poor planning on your part, nor can you take any kind of offence if the texted guest decides to forgo your last minute invite.
Agree 100%.
My friend who got married last year gave us invitations but she ran out and our other friend who lives in the US didn't get one. The other friend knew she was invited but she felt like an after thought especially since she's known her the longest. Not cool.
Also, this other girl I know needed to fill space in the hall and started sending out a word doc invite by email and claimed her bridesmaid had the invites for them... that was BEYOND tacky.
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I wouldnt mind
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We ran out of cards , though we got like 600 made lol , but then i texted some of my friends and they made it :)
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gah! 
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Life is short. Go enjoy the wedding, share in their happiness and eat as much food as you can! :)
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Depends on who it is. Family/close friends is different to a not-so-close friend texting me the night before asking me to come. I've had this before from friends who suddenly remember you because they realise that they won't have enough friends to at the wedding. Sometimes I'll go, sometimes I wont.