some young people ( men and women ) may not find that intimacy is all that great or significant. To them, a fore-caring nature is much import.
discuss, who ever agrees and give the reasons.
disclaimer: reasons for not doing this are not asked, since they are not of concern to the nature of the topic.
we aim at finding, what works, when people are not just coupled together, but are coupled in much more lasting and content ways. spiritual, emotional, a mission sense in terms of shared vision of the world view, life’s objectives. etc.
sex is for procreation. dushwari is liberty personified, but whether one likes it or not, it is true that sex is not for pleasure. the moment of conception is a huge break through to conceive a new life.
humans are built to have only so many children in their life times.
the function of being able to reproduce has its many limitations and principles, which should be followed rightly so. balance in intimacy and other forms of closeness is what is being said here.
humans have brains, and intellectual thoughts far beyond survivals needs, and that’s what make us disctintcs from our cousins the chimpz:blush:
so sex is not all that makes us attracted to the opposite gender
furthermore there are complex social structures and economical relations between humans which do promote the alliance between male and female in more durable way than primitive procreation.
children are dependant upon parents during many years so it makes the parents bound to find economical strategies to fulfill children needs, the most common scheme is durable monogamy: man and woman stay together and help each other to provide for the kid during his childhood, teeenage life, and may help him/her to find suitable mate in order to provide grandchildren to the couple…
So young people are raised within that socio-economical concept of durable monogamy, to be succesfull durable monogamy is not only based on sexual understanding, but in broad socio cultural understanding between the two members of the couple.
that’s the reason why young people like to socialise with people from the opposite gender, and when they developp friendship and more ambigous and flirtous relations with them they get to know progresssivly what is confortable in an affective relation with opposite gender members, and this is discovered usually before sexual interest reeally grow, i mean young teenagers don’t wan’t sex from the start, they have flirts, sexual relations develop later, after teenagers have figured out the affective importance of a “love” relationship
so that’s why intimacy is not all in a relationship for young people
older people (around 25-35 especially males) may be bitter enough to prefer sex to affection if they have experienced painfull break ups
errrrrrrrr.. but if they experienced painful breakups, shouldnt they prefer affection? the way i’m seeing it is … they could get sex anywhere? but affection would be hard?
However, speaking from a woman's pow, some women becaome quite bitter after failed relationships, especailly if they have given their all to make it/them work. They then tend to copy the characteristics of guys and try to master the art of using and abusing themselves. Trust me it does happen.
well some people give all their love into a relationship, and are feel betrayed after breakup, if that breakup is hard enough they might not want to love again, and refuse to give affection/receive affection, in order not to fall in love any more…
by fear to be trapped into a relation that could break their heart once again
However, speaking from a woman's pow, some women becaome quite bitter after failed relationships, especailly if they have given their all to make it/them work. They then tend to copy the characteristics of guys and try to master the art of using and abusing themselves. Trust me it does happen.
i don't think these are guys characteristics, but these are characteristics of insecure people
we aim at finding, what works, when people are not just coupled together, but are coupled in much more lasting and content ways. spiritual, emotional, a mission sense in terms of shared vision of the world view, life's objectives. etc.
sex is for procreation. dushwari is liberty personified, but whether one likes it or not, it is true that sex is not for pleasure. the moment of conception is a huge break through to conceive a new life.
humans are built to have only so many children in their life times.
the function of being able to reproduce has its many limitations and principles, which should be followed rightly so. balance in intimacy and other forms of closeness is what is being said here.
any one agrees or can positively explain?
Dushwari: I am beginning to feel that you are using GS to gather points for your daily assignments. BTW what subjects are you studying?
However, speaking from a woman's pow, some women becaome quite bitter after failed relationships, especailly if they have given their all to make it/them work. They then tend to copy the characteristics of guys and try to master the art of using and abusing themselves. Trust me it does happen.
the way i’m seeing it is … they could get sex anywhere? but affection would be hard?
salaamona !!!