Is there any way to let your father know that no no Prince William will not propose to your daughter?
I am seriously worrying now. My father does not seem to like any one at all for me. His love for me has grown so much that he is overly possessive now and God knows which prince of the world is he looking for. I am starting to get the feeling that the generation gap is prevalent, my parents dont realize i am okay marrying a reasonable decent person, i dont want a filthy rich, a Phd or some thing.
Recently, this rishta was there. The guy had every thing i could ask for, from the minutest to the largest of things except that he is really fat. That didnt matter to me much because the rest of his basics were awesome. I wasnt even comfortable with his family and didnt like a few things but even then I was ready to go for it because of all the characteristics that the guy himself possessed. Nothing else matters to me much if he himself is that good.
But my father didnt like him and didnt find any personality in him. My mother is always up to date about what i want but its difficult for even her to convince my father. I am going to be 27 and my father is not realizing that not many good rishtas will keep coming in now. All fathers want the best for their child but there should be a limit to how long they should keep waiting for the best, may be the best may already have passed due to their lack of attention to them. I feel too shy mentioning all this to any one at home, although my mother is aware to some extent what i want but my father plays the all-in-all at home so that leaves us no option. Its worrisome for me now that his love for finding the super best for me will actually not take me any where.
That is interesting to hear. Usually it is the girl looking for Prince William and dad wanting to get his daughter out of the house as soon as possible. Well, in the most recent case you described about the fat guy, I think I agree with your father, as he mentioned the guy not having any personality. That is a reasonable cause for rejection by your father. However, if this is happening in many other cases, then it is worrying. What is your father looking for anyway?. If he restricts himself to Doctor, Lawyer and Engineer, then it would be difficult for you, unless you are a catch too. It is ok if your father wants you to get married to an educated guy and you should not compromise on that too, but if he is looking for rich people, then it is a little unreasonable.
I have seen that happening in few cases, parents leabing their daughters unmarried for too long and claiming they can't find a decent rishta. I always wonder in such cases are they making a enough effort. I have a colleague, they are 3 sisters, she is the eldest and each time a rishta came the girls will reject due to petty reasons, like her mother talked like that and her sister sat in such a way blah blah. When she approached 30 and offers started to decrease she realised the problem. She then did not take her sisters opinion and recently got married.
Another reason why arranged marriages are inefficient. You can't expect decisions made by proxies to represent all your interests and standards. I'd recommend playing a more active role in the screening process. If you're too shy, try to slowly increase your involvement in the decision making process.
What is your father looking for anyway?. If he restricts himself to Doctor, Lawyer and Engineer, then it would be difficult for you, unless you are a catch too.
I agree! MOST Men who are good looking and have such qualifications also have high requirements per the girl's personality, education, so forth.
Where do you live by the way? States? Have you tried shaadi.com?
