No country for single women

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Re: No country for single women

@Kohinoor Diamond

After reading the following article: No country for single women, aside from taking much interest in the assumption (held by some cultures) that “older” single women are “immoral”, it also made me reflect on some other key issues. Regardless of whether you are male or female, what do you personally think and why?

1. Should age be an important factor when it comes to marriage?
2. Should an individual look for a potential spouse on their own or get their parents involved?
3. Is having a career more important than being in a relationship?
4. Is it better to wait for “the one” (and possibly never marry), as opposed to “settling”?

1 - Most of the things (if not all) should be done on the right time. Unless there are extraordinary circumstances, marriage is one of them.

2 - In desi communities I think the parents should initiate (esp for girls) and involve their children to it as well. Going alone on your own or allowing parents to do it all by themselves are the two extremes that I’m not comfortable with. If you find someone to your liking tell your parents (the parents should be comfortable/open enough to accept your suggestion and consider it wholeheartedly), same thing for you if your parents find someone for you.

3 - Ideally good relationship should not stop you from pursuing your career. Successful career people start their relationships early and build their lives together. Also having relationship at the beginning of your career is likely to last a long time since you started with zero and have seen not so good times together. Getting into a relationship after having established your career can be tricky since the other person might not be attracted to you but to your green card, bank balance, lifestyle etc.

4 - Upto a certain age (decide for yourself) you can probably wait for the “the one” but after that consider the reality and chose “the best available one”.