I remember on my Engagement people telling me stage pe zayada nahi hasna, bas thoda nichay dekhna n what not.. I followed what they said. But on the Wedding I did what i wanted to, I had planned on not doing make-up on the Mehndi, tho my cousins forced me too.... but I said No! since i always wanted to have a ghoonghat and simple look on the Mehndi! And we had our Nikkah on the Mehndi...My mum always wanted to have my Nikkah with all the guests present for the Dua'... Thanku to my mother because of her my Nikkah happened this way!
my mom and my uncle both said that I should have the Nikkah on the stage since it's nikah cermony not ruksati. I was brought in after my hubby and his family all arrived at the hall. I came in shortly after and we both signed our nikkah papers with everyone present. This was in pakistan in 2005. We were sitting next to each other attached so their was some space in between us and nikkah was read a few minutes after I arrived. I don't see what the whole celebration would have been if i was sitting in the car while my nikah was being read in the hall without me.
Back when the world was a better place (lol) woman and men did segregate themselves from one another. If a man was not your mehram, he was not to see you (general islamic law) but it really is an issue of nikaab (no nikkah=not mehram=no see wife lol) but i don't see why it would be an issue if your not a nikabi or whatever. People just do what people have seen, they keep the tradition, but forget the purpose of it. If their is no purpose (i.e the nikab) then do whatever.
Personally, I would love to have my nikkah done and then walk to the stage as his wife. Sadly, my nikkah happend already in a masjid. I love the idea of the nikkah being done at the wedding ceremony
If a man was not your mehram, he was not to see you (general islamic law)
This isn't true, as just one example we know that in the times of Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) men and women even prayed in the same room inside the mosques with no barrier (the men would be in front and the women behind) so I don't know where u get this idea from that if a man wasn't a mehram he would never even see you let alone call it 'general Islamic law.'
'Men and women both are allowed to pray in the mosque in the same Jama’ah. When men and women are together in the Masjid then we should have first men’s lines behind the Imam, then children and then women. This is the way Muslims used to pray behind the Prophet - peace be upon him. He did not make or ask his companions to have a curtain or wall between the lines of men and women. (See Al-Sindi’s Commentary on Sunan al-Nasa’I, p. 798)'
Islam doesn't demand total segregation of the sexes (which would be practically impossible anyway), just says that two members of the opposite sex should not be left alone together..
just wanted to make some correction... you better read more authentic stuff coz yes women used to pray in the mosques but there never been a case where in the same lines there were women and men together. its always separate... so pls dont go there... also better have some authentic proofs before you comment on sensitive issues not just someone's commentry.
Anyways... as far as nikkah is concerned then i guess there is no harm in having both in the same room girl can have head covered which good enough and they both can be present in the same room...
I am getting married soon and i would prefer to have my fiancee to be there in the same room so that we can enjoy the moment... same thing happened in our engagement... we were there together and we had photos taken and everything...
so i guess it just depends on people and the way they want things... to me i dont care what every one says its my wedding so i wana enjoy it... plus some one just made a comment that when they can be together at mehndi then why not at nikkah so it is a valid point...
in short just chill people do whatever the way you wana do ... dont worry about people :)
just wanted to make some correction... you better read more authentic stuff coz yes women used to pray in the mosques but there never been a case where in the same lines there were women and men together. its always separate... so pls dont go there... also better have some authentic proofs before you comment on sensitive issues not just someone's commentry.
No-one said they prayed in the same lines, did they?? It is clear they used to pray in the same room just with the men in the front and women behind, the idea that women need to be kept in totally different rooms or not even allowed to attend mosque (which is actually unIslamic) came about much later. If u want to argue my point perhaps u should mention a reference rather than just ur own opinion. What I quoted is 100% authentic if u want to bother looking it up, I don't comment on 'sensitive' issues like this without proof.
Yeah but islamically speaking, we do have purdah from one another. Our gaze and their gaze is to remain down for that same purpose. for you to say there is no such thing has "hijab/nikab" in islam is wrong. When woman used to walk through the streets, the men used to turn toward a wall and wait till the woman has passed by. regardless, just because we like to do something doesn't mean we should say that it's okay in Islam to do so just to wipe out our guilt or to make our selves feel better.
But if we're already having mehndi togethers, engagement, why not nikkah?
^ Even the shadi is together. And the groom is WITH OTHER WOMEN IN THE SAME HALL (just not his fiance/wife at the time of the nikkah). There is no logic or sense in this Pakistani custom. There is only twisting of religious teaching.