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January 22, 2011, 12:25pm
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Re: Nikkahs in Pakistan
Same with me. Ended up having a lot of arguments about this. And I was only asking to be present in the hall (on the ladies) side, so I could hear the nikkah, rather than being stuck in a room, not knowing what’s going on and then just sign and that’s it, i’m married. I got my way at the last minute though
Seems to me it just comes down to “that’s not what we do here” and people don’t want to cause a “scandal”. The bride just isn’t supposed to be seen until she comes in as a married woman.
I’m sure some people do it differently in Pakistan - the same people that manage to have seating plans that guests adhere to and more “westernised” weddings etc etc. Or perhaps if they have a small, private nikkah at home. But for the majority, it’s most definitely still like this.
Yeah, on the day of my shadi and the day or two leading up to it, my nani, father, FIL, brother, etc were all VERY sick. And mine was the last in a long line of weddings. I just gave up after a while.
I think it’s silliness.