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October 3, 2011, 2:09am
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Re: Nikkah
Silaaj:
I know that Islamically, nikaah is it, and you are married. But theres the cultural aspect to take into account too, no matter what people may say. In our part of the world, rukhsati is a cultural part of marriage, and if, for whatever reason, your families have decided to delay the rukhsati for a few months, then till then, your role will be pretty similar to what it is before nikah. Yes, you can talk to and hang out with your husband freely after nikah, but since he is not even going to be around, then I guess you are just expected to be a little more forthcoming in keeping in touch with your inlaws. Other than that, you just wait it out till rukhsati. No special expectations.
Right now, its a nikah in the sense that you’re not living with him.
At this point, just take it easy and don’t put too much stress on the relationship as it is long distance. Don’t expect him to just know how to be a husband because you don’t know how to be a wife yet. Give him some breaks and until you guys are actually living as husband-wife…try to maintain that.
I am agree with sliaaj and reha.
dont go chipko after nikkah.
i would suggest you to keep these moments of chipkoness, holding hand, and acting like love bird for rukhsati. dont be public when behaving in a such manner.
