My nikkah is in a few weeks & the wedding after 4-5 months of it. Its a long distance relation. He will leave after a few days of the nikkah.
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My nikkah is in a few weeks & the wedding after 4-5 months of it. Its a long distance relation. He will leave after a few days of the nikkah.
I know that Islamically, nikaah is it, and you are married. But theres the cultural aspect to take into account too, no matter what people may say. In our part of the world, rukhsati is a cultural part of marriage, and if, for whatever reason, your families have decided to delay the rukhsati for a few months, then till then, your role will be pretty similar to what it is before nikah. Yes, you can talk to and hang out with your husband freely after nikah, but since he is not even going to be around, then I guess you are just expected to be a little more forthcoming in keeping in touch with your inlaws. Other than that, you just wait it out till rukhsati. No special expectations.
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TIPS:
1- Don't expect a lot of romance from the husband at the moment, be practical in your approach towards him and be understanding of his time and yours as well. Understand that this is the beginning of your life together and don't set any behaviour patterns you cannot fulfill longterm in either yourself or him
2- Don't pay attention to vibes you get over sms/email/telephone. It doesnt come anywhere close to what a person might really be saying had he been in front of you. Learned this the hard way myself. Am in a situation exactly like yours.
3- Maintain respectable and reasonable contact with his mom and dad. Reasonable means again, contact that you can maintain over a lifetime. It may be one phonecall a week, one every day, to each her own. But keep in mind that any contact you initiate you have to maintain
4- NEVER complain to him about your family, or vice versa. It can create longterm problems. You would forgive both family and your husband over something you felt hurt by or angry at right now, but they would tend to remember and therefore bad feelings will develop between the two parties and youll be caught in the middle
5- Keep your marriage personal and between the two of you involved as much as possible. ANY patterns you allow to develop now will stay for life. Keep that in mind
:) best of luck!
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Right now, its a nikah in the sense that you're not living with him.
At this point, just take it easy and don't put too much stress on the relationship as it is long distance. Don't expect him to just know how to be a husband because you don't know how to be a wife yet. Give him some breaks and until you guys are actually living as husband-wife...try to maintain that.
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I would agree with the above posters.
Just chill and relax. This part of your life together will probably be the easiest.
At least in your case you knew your SO for a while before the Nikah, I never had that luxury.
That said, I would say we are getting along quite well despite the distance, time difference, and whatnot.
Enjoy it while it lasts :D
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Dnt annoy the inlaws by being chipku with yr husband b4 ruksati 
its not culturally accepted and your inlaws r gonna hate that so ya 
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I think inlaws are annoyed about chipku before or after rukhsati. She’s nikahed soon, she has a right to be more familiar with the husband even before rukhsati. Holding hands, sitting by his side at home are all allowed i feel
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My nikkah is in a few weeks & the wedding after 4-5 months of it. Its a long distance relation. He will leave after a few days of the nikkah.
I know that Islamically, nikaah is it, and you are married. But theres the cultural aspect to take into account too, no matter what people may say. In our part of the world, rukhsati is a cultural part of marriage, and if, for whatever reason, your families have decided to delay the rukhsati for a few months, then till then, your role will be pretty similar to what it is before nikah. Yes, you can talk to and hang out with your husband freely after nikah, but since he is not even going to be around, then I guess you are just expected to be a little more forthcoming in keeping in touch with your inlaws. Other than that, you just wait it out till rukhsati. No special expectations.
Right now, its a nikah in the sense that you're not living with him.
At this point, just take it easy and don't put too much stress on the relationship as it is long distance. Don't expect him to just know how to be a husband because you don't know how to be a wife yet. Give him some breaks and until you guys are actually living as husband-wife...try to maintain that.
I am agree with sliaaj and reha.
dont go chipko after nikkah.
i would suggest you to keep these moments of chipkoness, holding hand, and acting like love bird for rukhsati. dont be public when behaving in a such manner. :@:
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In our family the couples spend the night together right after nikah and in most cases move in together as well.. here in the west and 'back home.'
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There are many families who don't allow the couple to meet alone after nikkah. The couple meet usually when family is present. I know many such families.