Nikkah vs rukhsati

[Paheli00]

Re: Nikkah vs rukhsati

@devotee

Initially we thought we could do everything together in the summer i.e. nikkah/rukhsati and walima. However due to circumstances financially fiance has proposed the idea of us postponing it for another year. Initially i was upset (since we’re both dying to get married) he spoke to me and made me understand why we possibly have to consider this. We have to think realistically.

Since it’s your fiancé suggesting this and not your parents (who I assume would be paying for the wedding), this leads me to think that your fiancé is having job issues and can’t afford for the two of you to live together (since you’re still in school). If I’m wrong, please correct me.

Why are you both dying to get married? If the reason is b/c you two want to start being sexually active, then my suggestion is to wait 1 more year. No birth control is 100% guaranteed. So if your fiance isn’t ready to support you as a wife right now, you two aren’t ready to start doing something that could potentially lead to pregnancy (especially since you’re still in school and so close to graduating).