A friend of mine got married recently. It was an arranged marriage, so she didn’t know much about the guy. Better said, she knew nothing about the guy. They were engaged for 6 months and after that got married.
After marriage she found out a lot of things about him. A few weeks back she found out that he drinks. She promised him not to tell anyone, if he stopped. Then she asked him if he was doing drugs too. He denied and she found the drugs on him a couple of days back. When they came for her rishta they told her parents that the guy has two degrees, which he doesnt have. They told them he earns 500 a week, which he doesn’t. And that he smokes occasionally.. take a wild guess. He’s a chainsmoker.
She gave him a chance to fix himself, but he continues doing it behind her back. At the moment she’s at her parents house, because she refuses to go back to him. Her in-laws want her to come back, she even told me her FIL was in tears. Also her parents want her to go back. But she won’t go back.
She was asking me if her nikkah would be still valid, if all these things weren’t known before they got married?
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yess chilly milly..nikkah is vey much valid:teary1:…in Islam there is no such evidence that if the girl is given wrong info b4 nikkah,then the nikkah is invalid…so if she does not want to live with him,she mutt have to go thru proper channel…divorce papers have to be signed by both the partied..:
**first of all i'm sorry to hear that...men are sometimes scumbags...this guy is a perfect example.
no matter what was said and what turned out to be the fact...nikaah is a valid one coz both parties accepted it. the girl's family is trying to fix an unfixable person. girl herself can ask for divorce on these grounds and if he refuses she can go to court [islamic or unislamic] and ask for nullification of the marriege called Khulaa. its a valid reason. she must be able to get a divorce. **
A friend of mine got married recently. It was an arranged marriage, so she didn't know much about the guy. Better said, she knew nothing about the guy. They were engaged for 6 months and after that got married.
After marriage she found out a lot of things about him. A few weeks back she found out that he drinks. She promised him not to tell anyone, if he stopped. Then she asked him if he was doing drugs too. He denied and she found the drugs on him a couple of days back. When they came for her rishta they told her parents that the guy has two degrees, which he doesnt have. They told them he earns 500 a week, which he doesn't. And that he smokes occasionally.. take a wild guess. He's a chainsmoker.
She gave him a chance to fix himself, but he continues doing it behind her back. At the moment she's at her parents house, because she refuses to go back to him. Her in-laws want her to come back, she even told me her FIL was in tears. Also her parents want her to go back. But she won't go back.
She was asking me if her nikkah would be still valid, if all these things weren't known before they got married?
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Her Nikah is valid....however Islam has given her the right to take khula if she thinks she cannot live with the man anymore.
^ why ask for a khulaa????
she has all the right to ask for a proper talaaq in this case....
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in islam, women do NOT have the right to divorce their husbands in teh same manner as men can, by uttering word "talaaq" three times over her three mentural periods [the proper and right way prescribed by Allah so that mediation can take place to explore possibilities for couples to reconcile] OR some morons do it in one sitting like divorce three times in one shot [thats the misuse of talaaq and punishable by law, it denies the woman to find mediation for reconciliation], she have to go to a qaazii [judge] and ask for Khulaa [same as talaaq] and then she can receive it even for as simple a reason as saying...i do NOT like my husband. Islam is veru lenient with Khulaa while a judge might not...mudda'ii sust gawaah chust...lol**
A friend of mine got married recently. It was an arranged marriage, so she didn't know much about the guy. Better said, she knew nothing about the guy. They were engaged for 6 months and after that got married.
After marriage she found out a lot of things about him. A few weeks back she found out that he drinks. She promised him not to tell anyone, if he stopped. Then she asked him if he was doing drugs too. He denied and she found the drugs on him a couple of days back. When they came for her rishta they told her parents that the guy has two degrees, which he doesnt have. They told them he earns 500 a week, which he doesn't. And that he smokes occasionally.. take a wild guess. He's a chainsmoker.
She gave him a chance to fix himself, but he continues doing it behind her back. At the moment she's at her parents house, because she refuses to go back to him. Her in-laws want her to come back, she even told me her FIL was in tears. Also her parents want her to go back. But she won't go back.
She was asking me if her nikkah would be still valid, if all these things weren't known before they got married?
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Jazak'Allahu khair for your replies everyone. Please, do keep her in your prayers.
I understand that she has the right to ask for a khulaa now. But her parents are telling her to try fixing things, which is not possible. Are the parents allowed to influence her decision? I mean, she is a married woman now.. so she can take matters in to own hands now, can't she? I hope someone understands what I'm trying to say here.
That is why no one should do "Blind Arranged Marriages" which are unIslamic.
It is important that when people are looking for rishte they do so in a thorough way, knowing the person very well before they commit. This will minimise these problems.
Also, when the nikkah was drafted there is allowance for the woman to set conditions for marriage, which can be set and agreed.
Entering a contract where one gets given apples instead of pears is deception, I think you may find some Judge rule that the marriage is void if it can be proven that marriage was undertaken on a false pretext.
Otherwise the marriage is still in tact and she needs to set a new contract in place that she will return to him only if a condition is put in place where she will demand divorce from the man and that he will give the divorce if he continues to do x, y and z ... if the man agrees then this condition is binding at least in a civil court.
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in islam, women do NOT have the right to divorce their husbands in teh same manner as men can, by uttering word "talaaq" three times over her three mentural periods [the proper and right way prescribed by Allah so that mediation can take place to explore possibilities for couples to reconcile] OR some morons do it in one sitting like divorce three times in one shot [thats the misuse of talaaq and punishable by law, it denies the woman to find mediation for reconciliation], she have to go to a qaazii [judge] and ask for Khulaa [same as talaaq] and then she can receive it even for as simple a reason as saying...i do NOT like my husband. Islam is veru lenient with Khulaa while a judge might not...mudda'ii sust gawaah chust...lol**
thank u for your explanation....
but khulaa and talaaq r technically different things, and in such a case the woman need not go to the court asking the judge for khulaa....
she shud demand the judge to effect "talaaq"....
