Also, another reason I've heard some women prefer to do the nikkah separately from the man is so that they make a big entrance as newly married. That never appealed to me, but I suppose it's important for others.
I've seen brides making big entrances as they're walking to the stage for their nikkahs...
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yeah , My closest buddy had her nikkah , her mother didnt allow her friends next to her ..some superstitions … so many of us girls were witnessing the groom’s kabool hai thing … and as soon as the nikkah got over , his relatives literally jumped on him to congratulate him and literally the chair he was sat on fell back and the groom was in the most awkward posture I have seen in years !!! 
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candy apple...is your mehndi joint or separate?
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alvena - The mehndi will be joint. In fact, we sat on stage together for our engagement, so we can definetly do it the second way if we want to.
Chicken Biryani - I feel bad, but I chuckled a bit at that story....toba toba.
we had ours together and in front of everyone. i think its silly to separate two people who've probably been engaged for a while and have already hung out with each other, and more than that, are pledging to spend the rest of their lives together. SRSLY. they've already decided, there's no running away then, so what is the big deal about sitting on stage side by side when they make THE most important promise they'll ever make to another human! ridiculous.
Completely agree, SGC! It's so hypocritical that the girl has to be 'separate' when they probably went out to dinner the week before! And Nikah is the MOST important part of a wedding. It should be together and you guys should see each other while the Imam officiates the wedding ceremony. And it's not like there is any vulgarity going on if the girl is sitting on stage with the husband. She is dressed appropriately as a bride and it's in front of all the guests. I think it's amazing that the guests witness the beauty of the ceremony. I have quite a few non-Muslim friends coming to my wedding and I would really like them to see how an Islamic wedding is done. To have the girl sitting in a seprate room while she makes the most important decison of her life is absurd in my opinion.
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Candy.
Seeing as you have had everyother function together then why not the nikkah, i think if it is done in a tasteful and repsectful way then no one will say anything.
I think it would be nice to do something to symbolise you are now husband and wife, like english weddings have kiss the bride, traditional nikkah ways means you can come and sit next to your husband and the way my cousin did it her husband was the first to see her made up under the dupatta.
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i dont know mera nikkah abhi hua nahi mein bohot choti hun sorry, or mom dad se poochne mein sharam ati hai :)
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well alvena ji dont know for u but iam muslim alhamdulillah and would not like to kiss my husband in front of thousands people just to show them that we are married now !
well alvena ji dont know for u but iam muslim alhamdulillah and would not like to kiss my husband in front of thousands people just to show them that we are married now !
i wasnt saying she should kiss her husband, i was saying it as an example of symbolism!!!
As in its nice to have something to show you are now married i wasnt saying copy peoples symbols!