Nikkah - proper procedure?

That's an unfortunate attitude. The nikkah is technically the main event...the whole point of those 1-2 weeks of prewedding festivities. If the guests can sit through 2 hours of poorly choreographed bollywood dances by all your cousins and friends at the mehndi, I think they can sit through your 20 minute long ceremony.

Also...45 mins for a nikkah? In my experience its a 10-15 khutbah and a 5 minute ceremony...