Nikkah on Mehndi day

[parisbynight]

Re: Nikkah on Mehndi day

we did our nikkah on the mendhi day.
but after zuhr around /3pm..and then all went back to their respectives to get ready for the mendhi that was held at 7pm.

[soconfused]

Re: Nikkah on Mehndi day

we did our nikkah on the mendhi day. but after zuhr around /3pm..and then all went back to their respectives to get ready for the mendhi that was held at 7pm.

at a masjid or your house? different outfits?

ps I saw your pic in the makeup artist's fb page and you look amazing mA! :) congrats!

[Laiha]

Re: Nikkah on Mehndi day

@soconfused

Do I come out with no music and do a nikkah on stage and then exit after the crying/hugging…do photoshoot with hubs and then have a full-out mehndi entrance when all the other guests arrive or just wait and do the mehndi entrance, sit on stage, do the nikkah, and then just get started with the rasams. We have people on my in laws side that frown on mehndis but they need to be present for the nikkah so that complicates matters as well.
UGHHHH.

lol omg, wedding planning really isn’t as complicated as you make it sound.

1. You shouldn’t do your couples’ shoot after maghrib when it’s dark. Pics come out better in natural daylight. Your photographer is right about that.

2. If I were you, I would do the couples (outdoor?) shoot on baraat day simply because baraat outfit/look is more bling-bling so these pics would turn out better than mehndi pics. Also, for most people, rukhsati happens on baraat day so this day (the day that you officially move in with your husband) is more significant than mehndi day.

3. It’s your wedding. Do it the way you want. Your primary concern really shouldn’t be what people will think or say. Trust me, people will always find things to talk about. You can’t please everyone. You get married once (hopefully). Do what would make you happy (within reason, of course).

4. I’ve been to at least one wedding in North America, where nikah happened on the Mehndi day with both bride & groom on the stage. The groom entered first with his family and friends. There was music/flowers/etc. Then the bride’s sisters brought her under a dupatta to the stage. Again there was music and halla gulla. They sat separately (not on the same sofa) on the stage. Molvi sahib came. There was a short speech followed by the nikah and mubrak-baad round. There was no couples’ shoot on mehndi day. They did that on baraat and walima. So after nikah, they just started the mehndi rasms. Bride didn’t wear a traditional veil.

5. One other baraat that I went to … I couldn’t make it to her mehndi day which is when they had their nikah done. So I’m not sure how they did it. From what I heard from other people, it was very similar to #4](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=4) above.

6. Recently went to one where they had their nikah in the masjid on the day of the mehndi. The only people who attended the nikah ceremony were close family/friends. From what I heard, her outfit was very simple…and any pics were taken by a friend who is not a professional photographer but still takes good photos.

I hope this helps.

[parisbynight]

Re: Nikkah on Mehndi day

at a masjid or your house? different outfits?

ps I saw your pic in the makeup artist's fb page and you look amazing mA! :) congrats!

we did it in our house. i was wearing a plain kurta and leggings. . a white dupatta was bought fromt he in laws side as a traditon .

[soconfused]

Re: Nikkah on Mehndi day

@Laiha

lol omg, wedding planning really isn’t as complicated as you make it sound.

1. You shouldn’t do your couples’ shoot after maghrib when it’s dark. Pics come out better in natural daylight. Your photographer is right about that.

2. If I were you, I would do the couples (outdoor?) shoot on baraat day simply because baraat outfit/look is more bling-bling so these pics would turn out better than mehndi pics. Also, for most people, rukhsati happens on baraat day so this day (the day that you officially move in with your husband) is more significant than mehndi day.

3. It’s your wedding. Do it the way you want. Your primary concern really shouldn’t be what people will think or say. Trust me, people will always find things to talk about. You can’t please everyone. You get married once (hopefully). Do what would make you happy (within reason, of course).

4. I’ve been to at least one wedding in North America, where nikah happened on the Mehndi day with both bride & groom on the stage. The groom entered first with his family and friends. There was music/flowers/etc. Then the bride’s sisters brought her under a dupatta to the stage. Again there was music and halla gulla. They sat separately (not on the same sofa) on the stage. Molvi sahib came. There was a short speech followed by the nikah and mubrak-baad round. There was no couples’ shoot on mehndi day. They did that on baraat and walima. So after nikah, they just started the mehndi rasms. Bride didn’t wear a traditional veil.

5. One other baraat that I went to … I couldn’t make it to her mehndi day which is when they had their nikah done. So I’m not sure how they did it. From what I heard from other people, it was very similar to #4](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=4) above.

6. Recently went to one where they had their nikah in the masjid on the day of the mehndi. The only people who attended the nikah ceremony were close family/friends. From what I heard, her outfit was very simple…and any pics were taken by a friend who is not a professional photographer but still takes good photos.

I hope this helps.

Yep thanks so much for the advice!

I think we’re gonna do it where he comes in with music and sits down, the nikkah happens while I’m in the other room. I come out after nikkah is over (probably after maghrib at this point) and then we start the rasams. we can take some couple pics inside the venue but this won’t be the main shoot. then on the wedding day, I’m going to get ready 2.5 hours before the start time, go to some nice outdoor place with the photographer and do an outdoor photoshoot/first look. And then at the shaadi do the seperate entrances, ring exchange, a small dua/religious speech, maghrib, dinner, and then a couple speeches/rasams.

[somegroovychick]

Re: Nikkah on Mehndi day

@soconfused

@somegroovychick , I remember you saying something about your brother’s nikkah being held at the Mehndi. How did that go down (if you don’t mind me asking) and how was it received? Was there a reason you did it this way?

i think it was mainly the bride’s preference to do it this way and my family didn’t have any objections. we did our entrance and they greeted us with flowers etc. and then my brother and i walked in and sat on stage. then the maulvi and witnesses came. she was in a room upstairs with her people. the maulvi read the nikkah and my brother signed the papers, tears, hugging, congratulations, etc. then she came downstairs and made her entrance with her family and the mehendi thaal’s and the party carried on from there.