deeba I agree with u, if u have had the nikkah done, u can have a relationship,
but what I dont understand is the waiting around for the shaadi and rukhsati after u are having a relationship and in some cases moved in, with the guy!
I mean what is the point of the rukhsati?
and what if u have a bump on the wedding?
I think some people just dont want the whole "Getting married" phase to be over,
poor parents it proberly takes them years to be finally able to say " jaan chhuti";)
anyways I think its a little strange and a western approach to marriage, but thats my view!!