any amount, whatever the guy can afford. we didnt write any conditions, at the end of the day, THAT will not make a successful marriage, sometimes it can adversely affect it. we didnt write any, and that made a better impression on them. also im old and ugly enough to look after myself, so is any girl brought up in the west with a good education and good set of values given by her parents. for me personally, i feel the extra protection is needed maybe for more vunreble girls of a different background to us. but see, this wont mean that you will get this protection.
my haqq meher was quite alot, but so what? its not a life changing amount, and it wont make me happy if my marriage isnt working.