Mine was on the stage with everyone there. I think the whole point of wedding is the nikah ceremony so I wanted all my family and friends to be there when that was happening. It was a good experience in my opinion but many times the girl's family likes to have a little privacy as it's an emotional moment.
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Yes Sahar02 it was! Happiest moment of my life:)
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Nikkah in the masjid is sunnat ... at least from my undestanding.
The biggest mistake a couple can make is sitting seperately during the nikkah, regardless of whether it's in a masjid or a hotel reception hall ... but I understand that is unfortunately how our culture is. It's 'wrong' to be with your spouse, even though Islamically it's acceptable.
Afshi's wedding was one of the nicest I attended. Inshallah, more ppl will opt to do things her way ....
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thanks mehnaz!
my nikkah was in the masjid, and we had made a stage there. It was really pretty..one side were ladies and the other side were men (think of it as a church with pews), and I walked in the middle with my brothers on each side of me. Hubby and I wanted our nikkah ceremony (including the khutbah) to be the major part of our wedding, and wanted everyone to witness it - all of our 300 closest relatives and friends. We also wanted each of us present on the stage during the nikkah, so I got to say my duas and my acceptance in front of everyone. Everyone thought that was a great idea, especially for little kids to witness, since half of them think a shadi is just a place where you eat and dance and the bride cries because it's time to finish the party.
That sounds amazing!!!!! It's like a nice mix of both. You are still doing it there in the masjid, but you have plenty of your loved ones to witness the marriage happen! This is an awesome idea! I believe you live in the GTA..which masjid did you do this at? I didn't even know you could do events like this at the masjid!!
And I totally agree that it is good for kids to see. I was at an engagement and my little cousin asked me "when are they going to kiss"? It was sooo cute and sad at the same time, because in gora weddings on TV, you see this heartwarming moment when the couple make their vows and kiss and are officially married, whereas for ours, the couple just sit on stage and everyone looks at them. It's good for the kids to see the nikkah side of the union!
I also agree that regardless, the bride and groom should be sitting together during this moment. I don't understand how they leave the bride in some room in the corner during the nikkah!
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I had my nikkah at the Islamic Forum of Canada - which is in Brampton. That's the masjid where hubby and I are both halaqa students there and where we met, so it was perfect. Also the Shaykh knows both of us personally (since he is our teacher) and his khutbah was very meaningful and not the normal template khutbah that one always hears. And since it was "our masjid" i had a lot of say of what i wanted - in terms of setup and decor :). I was one happy camper..lol. Also there is a banquet hall just right next door, so the guests just walked there for the dinner and reception.
There are lot of masjid that have banquet facilities...ISNA, IMO both have them. I went to a nikkah in Malton that did something similar as well. The banquet hall was right across the street, so all the guests got to witness the nikkah and walked over to the banquet hall after.
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My nikkah will be the first thing we do on the bharat day soon as me and hubby sit down, yes on the stage, What I dont like is how much people rush rush rush through the religious part of the ceremony on a bharat wheras that is supposed to be the most important part of it.
Inshallah we have chosen to have molwi sab read passages with translation from the quran that me and hubby will choose ourserlves as well as speak of the importance and beauty of marriage in islam.
I am hoping the nikkah lasts around 30-40 mins at least.
Afshi what you did sounds beautiful mashallah and I would quite like to do that but its difficult as I have family spread all over UK so I am trying to fit everything into one weekend and make it easier for us and them as well.
I absolutely agree.
The biggest mistake a couple can make is sitting seperately during the nikkah, regardless of whether it's in a masjid or a hotel reception hall
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Hey ladies?
In terms of getting Nikkah done, did you get yours done ahead of time? Like in a masjid? If so, when did you do it? On the day of the baraat, mendhi, or before that?
Has anyone opted to get their nikkah done on stage in front of everyone at the baraat day? Was it a nice experience to have it done in front of everyone?
I'm trying to figure out the pros and cons of each, and decide which I'd like to do. I would really like to get it done on stage and share this moment with my guests on my baraat, but would it better to have a quiet, intimate affair at the masjid?
My Nikaah was done in masjid on Friday (noon) right after the Asr prayer and it was the mehndi day as well. I believe that at least Nikkah should be done in a pure environment, there shouldn't be any kind of artificiality during this process as it's the MOST important thing which needs the attention of the people around, rest of the wedding celebrations usually cover the part of 'sharing moments'. After nikkah, my hubby came at my place with family and we both sat together.
Mine was on the stage with everyone there. I think the whole point of wedding is the nikah ceremony so I wanted all my family and friends to be there when that was happening. It was a good experience in my opinion but many times the girl's family likes to have a little privacy as it's an emotional moment.
I think they grooms family needs me privacy so they can sit down and cry together LOL....
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I don't like the sound of either banquet-hall or Masjid.
I think Nikaah should be in the privacy of ones own home, with only close relatives present.
Waleemah should be in a banquet-hall... I don't like the sound of having a church-like setting in a Masjid.