Can we add our own conditions in nikahnama? I was having a discussion with someone the other day & that person said what we have is a default nikahnama but husband & wife can add their own conditions in it too. Is that true? Give reference please.
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Peace emke,
I’ll answer you without reference that ‘Yes! it is allowed to add conditions in Nikahnama on mutual understanding’.
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Alright, lets say a guy wants to put a condition before signing the dotted line that he will contribute 40% of his salary & wife will contribute 60% of her salary as she earns more than the guy but religiously speaking its guys responsibility to provide for her. Don’t you think its going against the Islamic set up of husband & wife?Then how can you put this condition in nikah & how is this different from prenup? People these days are making nikah difficult too why don’t they just sign a prenup. Lets say wife doesn’t mind contributing financially but again its husband’s duty to provide for her & he has no right on her salary.
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So husband makes $100 and he contributes 40% = $40
Wife makes $125 and contributes 60% = $75
I guess the husband is okay with being a kept man 
Fine, I kid, sort of.
It’s not unusual for a wife to be a higher earner than her husband and to contribute more financially - that does not make a guy a kept man. But it just sounds wrong for a guy to insist that a wife’s greater financial contribution be documented in writing on the nikahnama. Where a wife earns more, it tends to just naturally happen that her financial contribution to the joint household is more, but I’d hate to be told I HAD to contribute more and it be a condition to the marriage itself.
Does that mean she owns 60% of the marital home (or actually, if looked at in absolute numbers $75 of the combined income puts her share at 65%. Does she also get to make 65% of all of the financial decisions in the marriage?
I know, I’m totally off-tangent and maybe the condition was just an example, but it sounds wrong…
I guess a couple like this will be negotiating conditions like: who’s going to change how many diapers, who’s taking out the trash, who’se family gets to visit and how often, who gets to name the kids…doesn’t sound like an auspicious start to a marriage.
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Peace emke,
I totally agree with you that it is responsibility of the man to provide basic needs (mandatory) to her woman. Almighty Allah made both gender in equal but men have some superiority over women so this responsibility automatically falls upon the men.
And like I said earlier, the addition of any condition can be added on mutual understanding and Nikkah Nama can be signed without having any conditions. However, if a person persist in adding any condition then it is preferable to add only those conditions which doesn’t goes against the teaching of Prophet Muhammad 
and against the order of Almighty Allah.
Unfortunately, such demand really caused Nikah difficult.
Almighty Allah knows best.
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Marriage is a funny legal kinda thing. Any addendum to a basic Nikkah is essentially a prenup. Marry if you must in a situation that strongly warrants additional ancillary legal contracts.
But, on the flip side financial legal prenup obligations are based on whim and fear(insecurities), not necessary justice and cooperation. So they are likely to be more damaging during marriage or during divorce.
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Yes I have seen one, there is a section for conditions..