Nikah Naama/Form

Re: Nikah Naama/Form

i'm getting married in the US, Inshallah...so its not as simple as Pakistan I guess :). The haq mehr...I though the amount was to be decided by both parties? Does anyone know the norm for the US and Canada? I only know of one my friends...her father wanted it to be higher because of unfortunate experience with the 2 elder daughters (both are divorced and living back at home) so they set it at $21K, BUT ghair muajal (so its deferred).