Re: Nikah before rukhsati
^(@sgc) completely agree. that's how it is traditionally in my family too. even if the couple aren't going to live together until some time later, she's still 'rukhsat' at the same time as nikkah... there's like little concept of them not being husband and wife and needing to declare it later, once the nikkah is done.
my nikkah is soon, this is how we expected it to be. but my in-laws are like 'they're not getting married, it's only a nikkah'. only a nikkah? they crack me up.
it's causing a lot of complications too.