Well, since we r already discussing this topic maybe I should throw my question in. I am sunni n engaged to a shia guy. Our wedding wont be happening for another 1.5-2 yrs but rozyok's situation is kinda making me think... knowing that my family's sunni n his is shia..how would that work? Would they have to bring their SHIA Imam or a SUNNI Imam can do it? Does it really matter?
**i've seen weddings where two nikaahs were done separetely to accomodate each other's rigid ways. if one is concerened about nikaah, its just the beginning. the life will be FULL of conflicts and one has to give in to the other or there wilkl be a war in the house unless they both live like a marginal muslims.
in old days women usually wud change and follow husband's madHab. my uncle married a shi'a woman. all boys were sunnis while girls were shi'a and then in the next generation his shi'a daughter married a sunni and her children followed dad's madHab.
i wish u all the best but be ready for conflicts.**