Night Owl

Lifestyle Relationships
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I don’t like being a night owl for work, honestly. I am getting home → falling asleep → cannot participate much in activities of daily living - haven’t had time to get groceries, or do an oil change on my car, etc. These days are essentially OFF limits to get anything accomplished in my life.

Eating my mom’s lasagna now that I packed over the weekend. I meant to do brunch, with eggs and all.

Why does my life revolve around food? Bad sign. I’m not fat, I swear.

Remember that laundry load I spoke about ? Still untouched. groans

Need to catch up with my once upon a time episode from this past week - NO TALK ABOUT THAT EPISODE!

sighz So goal this week - every day, do something nice for myself.

People think I don’t make time for myself. I used to regularly, and the activity almost always involved eating something outside → leading to pretty bad weight gain. It’s all come under control again now so not interested in starting that nonsense up again.

Let’s see, I talk to boys a little every few days - they’re always idiots I’ve met online, but duniya umeed pe quaim hai and so am I.

Yeah, I need real life friends. I had them. Life was good. Then petty jealousies and games. Then loss of friends. No gain of friend function after that.

Everyone keeps saying it, but when you’re run down from work, and spending time away from work either sleeping or eating, or cleaning house OR God forbid you work on your resume a little…the 24 hours per diem are complete.

So what time? And where do I go? I’m one of the busiest girls in this city and I OF ALL PEOPLE, have set up a meet up dot com group for desi meetups. Yep. Gonna plan for an activity maybe next weekend.

What angers me is that we have so many busybody aunties and uncles in our community and no one cares to get younger people involved so that they meet up and have a place to go to make friends when they move to a city. This is crap. If you are running a pakistani organization, would it KILL YOU to have mixers? Would it destroy the essense of your soul to have a place for young people to meet up, and for new people in town to get to know each other?

Then we go to weddings where we see young eligible guys marrying non-muslims or non-pakistanis and we think…he couldn’t find anyone in this huge community?

rolleyes

Maybe I just see this more because I have no social network that I’m in. And if you tell me to MAKE one, I’m going to tell you to shove tasteless poorly made halwa into your fat mouth.

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Great. This was supposed to be a blog. This is like the fifth time I've done this in January alone.

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Perhaps you are doing it because you desire some sort of conversation and your subconscious is making you open threads

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YEP that's it.

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Yeyyy for our Id... making us do stuff our superego wouldn't let us :). Just relax... you deserve it. You are too hard on yourself. You have been workind very ahrd since you were very young. Now, you need a break. I have been working since i was 15 and have two licenses/certifications.. and I am currently in nursing school. If my hubby didn't remind me to take a breath every once in a while, I would go insane.
P.S. I really hope you find the one.

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Noob

:D

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Younger people have the ability to do this themselves dont they?
why does some uncle have to plan mixers for young people..
people in their 20s and 30s should be able to take initiative and organize stuff
if they dont do it, it cant be blamed on others

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why is that an issue exactly? maybe he didn't want "anyone"- he wanted someone he connects with and loves regardless of their race

people are people no matter where they come from- maybe the world would be a better place if everyone realized that

just sayin..

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why do you over complicate your life... no your not the busiest girls in the city. your single and got nothing better to do. admit it.

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If u have so much trouble managing itself being single how will u do it after marriage.

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I can empathize with PCG. When you are so struck in work, you do not have the enthusiasm to meet new people. There is this target that needs to be met. It is a sad fact, people in their late 20s and early 30s are finding it difficult to meet people outside the workplace.
A help would be really appreciated !!!

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This isn't a issue, but the fact is that nobody is realizing that there are so many people within the community who are looking out.

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Exactly. Shows like The Office now exist for a reason...with a multitude of such shows that followed suit - like 30 rock, like parks and recreation, etc.

No one makes shows like Everybody Loves Raymond anymore - know why? Because we're living life at work. Home --> for sleep and being left alone.

It's sad.

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Just an update, my meet up group now has like 9 or so members on it. They all said they're alone in the city, and don't know many other pakistanis and are looking to network - single and in their late 20's early 30's.

shrugs There are people like me out there, that's obvious, I'm not alone, and I don't think you can entirely blame it on being anti-social.

Our desi community, generally speaking:

  1. Lacks social activities that are open to everyone so new people in town can go and make friends
  2. The few social activities that take places at masjids for example, there is tremendous gender segregation, so young single people get alienated there. Mostly families show up and depending on the mosque, the crowd can be more family oriented or not as educated, so young professionals don't feel at home there. Sad.
  3. Pakistani families tend to stick to cliques, so their kids only know a certain circle growing up.
  4. It costs money to fly out to the few events that do occur.

Some good groups out there - but again, you have to find when they have events and fly out, and if you're in debt or making month to month payments on loans/mortgages/schooling/etc, then this becomes hard.

-CAMP
-Muslim Singles Professional Events (google this they have an upcoming event in Boston)
-APPNA
-ISNA

I'm sure there are other local groups. Like I just started a meetup.com group in the area, so we'll see how that goes. If anything, people can make friends right? And not be ridiculously alone.