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i think being nice takes alot of balls here and there. Being selfish, self centered is pretty easy. You only have yourself to focus on. I had people pleasing habit. It changed over time as I changed the set of people I was with.They were less demanding and worth caring for.Basically if u care too much, find people worth caring for and you are getting enough in return.
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I think I’m suffering from “Nice girl syndrome” … 
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Becomes more of a problem when you're nicer to others than yourself....when your niceness to others frequently comes at your expense in some way or the other.
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I think people get confused between 'good' and 'nice'
Nice people are nice when they need to be and want to be. Anyone can be nice, it's quite easy, you just BC everyone all of the time.
A good person knows when to let go of small issues, is willing to 'sacracfice' a smaller issue as they can see the bigger picture and will say what needs to be said when it needs to be said to those who need to hear it.
I've been known to be a 'people pleaser' and yes, maybees I do like to make others happy, but I dont sacrafice my happiness to make others happy. If I can do something for someone and it doesnt kill me, what's the harm. Im not going to stop doing what I do just cos others don't do the same for me.
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lots of people show theyr really sweet n nice to manipulate soemone .. not all the nicies' are as nice and innocent as they may seem
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I think people get confused between 'good' and 'nice'
Nice people are nice when they need to be and want to be. Anyone can be nice, it's quite easy, you just BC everyone all of the time.
A good person knows when to let go of small issues, is willing to 'sacracfice' a smaller issue as they can see the bigger picture and will say what needs to be said when it needs to be said to those who need to hear it.
I've been known to be a 'people pleaser' and yes, maybees I do like to make others happy, but I dont sacrafice my happiness to make others happy. If I can do something for someone and it doesnt kill me, what's the harm. Im not going to stop doing what I do just cos others don't do the same for me.
I agree, I don't see a harm in pleasing others as long as one doesn't sacrifice their own happiness.
Same!
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"Nice Girl Syndrome" isn't just about pleasing others. You basically have no identity of your own because you are so busy focussing on making the world around you happy while running from confrontation or even having to deal with yourself.
The book of the same title is very powerful, enlightening and can lead to a path of self-discovery and eventually healing. I have been advocating it since I first read it.
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I ain’t a chick but hell I am an opinionated ******* so I will say what I think. Women spend too much time pigeon holing themselves into neat little boxes. Like the current discussion on a nice girl. I am sorry there is no woman on the face of the planet who is nice 24/7 365 days a year. Other than the obvious reasons of your crazy periods, its just not emotionally or realistically please everybody all the time. Then again there is nothing wrong with that either. There is nothing wrong with having a nice girl syndrome when its balanced with a healthy dosage of self-esteem and self-respect.
Women spend so much time worrying about image and what is the fashionable thing to do that they don’t really see what they do to themselves. There is no problem in sacrificing your happiness at points to make others happy. Its what is more important that counts.
Ask any brother with younger sisters or brothers. Sacrifice is built into the upbringing of most desi guys when it comes to their own siblings. However for women to sacrifice it is all about feminism and me first which is neither fashionable nor a good thing 
What you describe OP is someone who lacks self-respect and self-worth. She is not a nice girl. She is an idiot.
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wow, i can so relate to u. 
.. even shopping at Costco is frustrating for me..( let people pass me and stuff). A friend once suggested to tone it down a lil bit and add a tiny bit of b factor.. it was fun for few days then I went back to my comfort zone.
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Unfortunately, that Psychiatrist is not a friend but one of the most leading docs in Pakistan. I have a meeting with him on almost regular basis for the consultation of a schizophrenia patient. He is US qualified and is a visiting faculty in 2 of the Pak's famous medical colleges.
This words came to me from him.
telephone, your psychictrist friend should not make up things. There is no such "People Pleasing Disoder" in the Diagnostic and Satistical Manual of Mental Disorder.
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Also known as the 'disease to please'.... can anyone here relate to the phrase? Have you realized that being too nice is actually holding you back from true happiness and respect in life? Nice girl syndrome is all about being a doormat who puts the needs and well-being of others before her own, and pretty much always gets taken advantage of, abused, and manipulated. Nice girls don't know how to stand up for themselves, worry too much about what others may think of them, and don't know how to or refuse to express anger in order to avoid conflict and confrontation.
Any reformed 'nice girls' who are now strong women? I'm curious.... how did people around you react to the drastic change of seeing you as a an easy target and a yes-woman to a strong, assertive woman with the ability to put herself first, say no to others, and actually be able to confront people who are wronging her or walking away from abusive/unhealthy relationships.
Being nice does not mean you're sick. It means you're a nice person.
There aren't enough kind and nice people in this world...that is the truth.
If someone wrongs you in a way where you are changing positive things about yourself...then you're giving them credit and power they don't deserve.