How difficult were the initial months? How long does it usually take to settle in and accept the restrictions etc? I would like to hear from some guppans who were independent before marriage and went through some drastic changes.
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What kind of restrictions are you talking about?
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Restrictions by MIL…
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Restrictions as in martial law, curfew, lathi charge, tear gas etc.
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Basically the same as your own over protective parents.. Don’t stay out too late, don’t wear that, eat more of this, where/with who/what time are you coming back?
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From her wording think OP means girls who had a bit more independence before marriage.. Not been in the situation but know of girls told or expected to stick to shalwar khameez for a while at least after moving in with inlaws, most were used to wearing jeans or whatever they liked in general.. Also not go out too much (esp without inlaws), that sort of thing.. If you come from a stricter or more traditional family it probably wouldn’t seem like a big deal but to others it would be really stressful to go from having the freedom to not..
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yes, I was independant. made my own money, spent it on myself too, went to school, did everything myself, while living with parents. mother didn’t require me to cook or do heavy household chores (she was like, after you get married, you will be doing your fair share of that anyway) .. and boy did I get alot more to do than my fair share !
after marriage - did not get any support from the in laws, had to cook/clean all that on a daily basis PLUS work a full time job, while my sister in law did nothing at home, along with the brother in laws. all the while listening to how I still wasn’t good enough and the complaints were constant. Basically ripping me of my identity 
that is just the short version
I was not allowed to wear certain t shirts because they would show my arms too much, or pants were showing my behind cuz it wasn’t long enough. if I wore shalwar kameez they didn’t like, I would hear about how bad my taste was.. if I wanted to go out, I would need approval from almost everyone in the family.. stupid crap like that was the everyday.
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If they do..
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Why do some people even bother with marrying off their puttars? Is it only to belittle someone else’s daughter? And it never ceases to amaze me that the parents who have daughters of their own would treat someone else’s daughter like that? Do they not stop to think for even a moment that what goes around comes around and their own princesses may be treated like crap by their in-laws in the future.
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The answer to your question lies in this joke : A man goes to a fortune teller and asks about his future. The fortune teller says, " The next 5 years of your life are going to be really difficult". " And then?" Asks the man. " Then you will get used to it" answered the fortune teller.
Welcome to desi marriages and culture. Jokes aside. It does get better after a while in most cases. The bride needs to stand up for herself too after a while.