Newbie here, question about marriage/intimacy

[jungleee]

Re: Newbie here, question about marriage/intimacy

@khattichic

Honey, I know it’s going to be hard, but a therapist is a professional. They’ve heard it all. And they’re trained to help you make sense of something senseless. It’s better to be proactive than reactive. Like you said, you don’t know if it’s going to be an issue for you, if something is triggered and you panic, wouldn’t it be better to be prepared to dea with it? Rather than your husband get scared that he did something to hurt you, you should be prepared and comfortable to have had that conversation with him beforehand so that he is mentally prepared and doesn’t blame himself or get worried that he did something wrong

yes i agree.. the more i talk about it, the more real it gets, the more i feel there is something wrong with me. I think right now by not talking to the therapist its my way of delaying and coping with it, although i can see its wrong.