The new age in Pakistani culture has brought upon the influence of the West; where boys are proud of losing their virginity while girls learn to flaunt themselves and score evenly. If its in the word used often is “posh”.
Everyone is eager to talk about it yet no one is ready for it. No one is ready to deal with the circumstances, the consequences of their actions! And because of that, we find infants lay there in the dumpsters crying. Because of that, we find fathers beating their daughters for defaming their family name while sons are encouraged to screw around silently so as long as no one knows when it comes time to getting him a wife.
The need to call each other names is quick even on this discussion board yet the act to solutions is little. What have you done lately to help out? To educate these folk?
Why not move them towards a society where the sexually active aren’t left in the dark rather given useful advice? You can’t really stop these folk, religion doesn’t appeal to them, neither does patience mean anything. So why not give them a heads up on how to and what to use or avoid??
Do you think its about time Pakistan’s education system introduces sexual education into their curriculum? A little bit of guidance since no one can control this phenomena?
Teach them about STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) rather than leave it to the old wives tales and friendly gathering?
You think these religious locals will allow it? Its more of a cultural issue than religious, don’t you think?
Why keep it in the dark when its already happeneing? If you can’t stop it might as well control it? Hmmm?
u cant really do anything about it.. what do u suggest we shud do? the best thing i can think of is to talk to ur parents ..ur mom or dad whoever u r close to or ur siblings.. n i dont think pakistan is ready for sex education in schools yet.
i am sure no one goes into these things without knowing the consequences. or maybe there r. in anycase.. in pakistan .. u cant really tell if that person is sexually active.. parents are in denial that "oh my daughter or son is an angel..they wud never do such thing".
umm i dont think the mullah government and all those majority of ignorant molvis wud let that happen. i still believe that u can get better guidance from ur home than at school or anywhere.
Yes, I agree with Mr. Coconut. You have to do somethin on a wider scale so that we can educate them on a wider scale - because "Not Ignorance, but Ignorance of Ignorance is the death of knowledge"
And under what name should it be introduced? Then I think it should, in no way, mention the word sex. Cause people will fret and start objecting it right at the spot. It should be introduced under a disguise, something more generic, maybe something under 'General Knowledge' or something.
And regarding Pakistan's Educational curriculum, then I think it needs to be changed on the whole. From what I remember, my elder sister told me that she read the same English book that I was reading when I was in grade 10. Now my elder sister is way too older than me (she's married, blessed with 3 kids). So how come I'm reading the same book(s). Baita, THAT'S BECAUSE THE CURRICULUM HASN'T CHANGED SINCE THEN .... OH I see !
NOW that's P.A.T.H.E.T.I.C
I'm not talking about the Universities, I'm talking about schooling here. The schooling system is :(
Info: I did my schooling here is Dubai & it were my parents who insisted that I should follow a curriculum set up by the FBISE.
myOpinion: Why not introduce a completely new curriculum.
Out here, when you compare a Graduate from India and one from Paki, with the same qualifications, then the Indian would outperform 'AND' is preferred in most cases. Now why is that, I think that they, the Indi's, are spending more on their educational system than we, the Paki's are. They are spending more on the Software export-> I donno what. BUt all I know is that they are ahead of us. Now don't take this as an offence, even I'm a paki. But that's the fact. Their literacy rate is much higher than ours. now that is -> BIG PROBLEMO.
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u cant really do anything about it.
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Now that's where we start from. We start off by saying that we can do it. We just have to take the initiative. I remeber this elderly person saying that 'You have to take the first step and Allah (S.W.T) will help you take the second'. So .... I'm ready to take the first step .. who's next.
P.S: This is just a confidence booster, so don't make a mickey outta me.
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u cant really do anything about it..
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What makes you say we can't do anything about it? You can't just sit one hand on top of another and expect miracles to happen. I'm afraid thats pure ignorance talking.
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*Originally posted by suroor_ca02: *what do u suggest we shud do? the best thing i can think of is to talk to ur parents ..ur mom or dad whoever u r close to or ur siblings.. n i dont think pakistan is ready for sex education in schools yet.
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Why do you think pakistan isn't ready for sex ed. yet? What about the people who don't want to talk to their parents, siblings or friends?
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i am sure no one goes into these things without knowing the consequences. or maybe there r. in anycase.. in pakistan .. u cant really tell if that person is sexually active.. parents are in denial that "oh my daughter or son is an angel..they wud never do such thing".
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Really now, you cares about parents whom are in denial. The same parents exist everywhere. It doesn't mean you should just not shed light on the matter of handling the situation at all.
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umm i dont think the mullah government and all those majority of ignorant molvis wud let that happen. i still believe that u can get better guidance from ur home than at school or anywhere.
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Whats the basis of your belief that guidance is better at home? Isn't the so called healthy home guidance mostly old wives tales?
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And under what name should it be introduced? Then I think it should, in no way, mention the word sex. Cause people will fret and start objecting it right at the spot. It should be introduced under a disguise, something more generic, maybe something under 'General Knowledge' or something.
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What do you suggest? what name can it be introduced under? If you were Minister of Education how would you propose this idea and under what generic name so that people won't fret or object.
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I don't know how but I think we should educate parents FIRST on how to treat male and female children equally!!
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Imagine yourself making bread for years and you always thought it was right. Someone comes in your life and tells you, its wrong! How would you feel? Now, how would that someone educate you? In the same respect thats whats happening between parents and children and the active government. Think about it and see what you can come up with : )
if parents can’t correct themselves then how will they teach their children the right path? Tell me how do you feel to be corrected by someone who himself isn’t correct? Parents have to be more open minded so that they can educate their kids about everything including sex but I don’t think they will allow that kind of education to take place….as far as I know I don’t think there’s any solution to this problem..:-S
What makes you say we can't do anything about it? You can't just sit one hand on top of another and expect miracles to happen. I'm afraid thats pure ignorance talking
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In a country like pakistan.. yep.. we do need a miracle to happen.. well if u r so sure we can do something about.. suggest something.. u want a difference .. u need a PERSON to initiate that difference.. who is willing to do that.. wud u?
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Why do you think pakistan isn't ready for sex ed. yet? What about the people who don't want to talk to their parents, siblings or friends?
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talk to friends, read books, there r ways to get info today through internet, tv etc.
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Really now, you cares about parents whom are in denial. The same parents exist everywhere. It doesn't mean you should just not shed light on the matter of handling the situation at all.
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okay i agree there.. but again.. who is willing to take that step?.. are teachers and parents ready for this sort of education in schools?.. what about those powerful mullahz who have control over pakistan.. who is willing to fight them? .. it's easier said then done.
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Whats the basis of your belief that guidance is better at home? Isn't the so called healthy home guidance mostly old wives tales?
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well personally i talk to my mom about anything and everything. i ask her if i am confused about something or just want to confirm anything. i feel more comfortable talking to my mom about these sort of things than anyone else.
.as far as I know I don’t think there’s any solution to this problem..:-S