Everyone I know, who is in their early 20s want to get married.
It seems to me as if its become more of a trend than an actual “want”. I’ve been wanting to discuss this forever. The trend favors men more than women. Just yesterday I was talking to a friend. And he desperately wants to get married, and is only 21. He wants to get married for (what I think are all the wrong reasons). Just want a female figure around him all the time. A babysitter. He is NOW hunting for a wife, says if he can’t find one here, he’ll just get one from Pakistan. And once the couple gets married they can both work and earn good money to support each other. Okay so the financial aspect makes sense because even working at MacDonalds 247 can give you some good green. But what about the other things that need great consideration?
The trend has taken most men that are born and raised in North America. Some of my highschool guy pals, Im still in touch with, wanna get married. They’re going to college, life seems smooth and all of a sudden most of them want a wife. I dont know if they understand the responsibilities of a married man, or raising a family, or the responsibilities of taking care of another person for the rest of their lives, but to them its because (everyone else is getting married, so we have to as well).
I don’t see any guys here talking about getting married. Maybe its because money is a big issue here, still in pakistan the economy is not as good as Americas. Unless you have shait loads of daddy’s money, or you, yourself are doctors, engineers, or business man, getting married so early is not an option.
So what the hell is going on? Can someone, who is in their early 20s wanting to get married shed some light on this. And give their reasons for getting married, because honetly it just doesn’t make sense to be getting married just because your friend is getting married or you want a female figure around you all the time.
I know of two guys here in the US, who wanted to get married at 19. Both are fairly religious. They were following what Islam says about getting married young and also how they basically wanted a girl in their life. Since they do not believe in dating, and the concept of a girlfriend, getting married was what they wanted. However both of their parents squashed those dreams real quick :D
To hell with that. At 40 i am gonna a pretty young blonde, and then at 42 a different pretty little blonde and then at 45...you get the idea. This is one 20 something year old that does not want to commit or get married.
also how they basically wanted a girl in their life. Since they do not believe in dating, and the concept of a girlfriend, getting married was what they wanted.
I think the real underlying issue is this. It may have worked fine in a small community back in 500 A.D. or 600 A.D. But factors are different now. There's this period of life mankind has invented called "teenage years" which completely throws the biological harmony off. These teenagers can't figure out if they're still kids or adults. And then to top it off, we have "college" and "grad school" now - which means there is a nice time gap between the time one hits puberty and wants to start either impregnating or getting impregnated until one can be financially steady.
So, some muslim kids get it in their head that they need to go back to the 500 A.D./600 A.D. zamana and get married off right away. Well, what they don't realize is that the Prophet and every man in that society who was getting married at 20 (roughly) was already financially on their feet.
50B, I agree with the whole Islamic thang, but there guyz who say they're bored and tired of the whole dating game, because its just TOO much work. Why are they tired, they're still 22ish? What about that kind, the ones who aren't religious, but want to get married. I want to know what their reasons are. It just doesn't make sense.
Guys who are tired of the dating scene at 22: They're lazy bums and they dont want to work for their slice of paradise.
Guys who are not religious, but want to get married young: They're horny and its the only way to get 'satisfied' without getting disowned by your parents and without decreasing chances of getting a good wife in the future because they opted for hanky panky behaviour.
I didnt know of any guys who were tired of the dating game before college was over and after..I guess these guys you know, had bad experiences, heart broken one too many times, etc and just didnt want to deal with it no more and settle down when school is done and get a nikah
i'm assuming they do it out of the sheer pressures that surround them..
"Normal" NA society expects you to have a steady prospect or a girlfriend by that age... these guys can't date within the 'halaal' group.. gorees are a touch cookie to crack.. not all can bag the decent ones (already many guys after them) and those who do will find little future with them cuz of amma abba at home.. So to avoid all these pressures (and not to look gay) they opt for the safest and surest method of ensuring they get laid regularly (plus get someone to chip in with the chores).