Imagine a somewhat pampered only-boy adolescent teenager brought up in an enough well-off family and raised in Middle East and North America, when in a twist of time fate slaps him down in the majority upper middle-class areas of Karachi. Even though he has a massive amount of relatives over there (some friendly, some annoying) and everyone is practically in one way or the other a likeness of him (race, religion, culture etc.).. how will be the experience to him??
What will be his challenges? How will he overcome them? How will he adjust to the life there? What other sundry matters might he have to face..
P.S. The character in this example is not being related to anyone specific:halo:
Should do okay as long as he gets out and makes his own friends. He will find there are many like him who share similar stories. I had moved to pak for 2 years and met some great people, and made many friends, and not all had the same background or similar path..but it was all good.
if that guy is a muslim then he should pray 5 times a day, read holy book (quran).......through this he will get relief and solution for all the complications and problems. he should stay calm and steady in all situations, whether good or bad, and should think about a solution with his brain not heart. alternatively he should consult someone who he can trust (specially parents). he should also keep reciting surats/ayats related to allah and prophet mohammed (SAW, PBUH). also he should be thankful to god for giving him this life. and should never mourn about bad things but should always thanks god for little things too. he should be sorry to allah for the wrong things he did and seek help from allah when caught in a problem.
IIt's a cruel life . it beats us everywhere . especially when it comes to family relatives and uncles. the guy who is raised in america will have to be clever enough to understand those intricacies which always remain hidden to him .
it's hard to adjust at such times when you have lots of money, you are a foreigner or you are famous
it all depends on the kind of person he is, how outgoing and how social he is, some people just merge into society real easily while others have a real hard time. varies from person to person
But I don't feel the need to really change myself. I find the materialism and constant obsession with appearance really shocking and disturbing. It's much more overt than it is here.
lol..
one of the first things you're gonna hear are, "you're from amreeka? but you're not even that fair! anyone from amreeka is sooo gora and tandurust"
next, "oh look at you, don't you eat well? everyone from amreeka is so fat and healthy!"
get ready to get made fun of when you speak urdu and make fun of them when they speak english. i think you're gonna be amused to see how excited people are to meet someone from abroad. like when i went there, i got a copy made of my passport in my aunt's office, and the guy who did it goes, oh my god, i have never seen a blue passport before- he was so excited! not to mention, you're gonna come across the entire breed of those 'wannabes' who you'll look at and say whoa.. most of them are just in such a mad dash to be all 'westernized' there that it's funny to watch.
It seems that every1 here goes to a different pakistan. When i recently visited pakistan..I found it just fine! didn't meet or see too many wana-be's or ppl struggling to speak english...they either knew it or didnt...and isn't much to be ashamed of. and it wasn't a high class area of Pakistan..jus normal average ppl. I didn't really see any guys with TIGHT JEANS or paindu girls...as i had read some comments from gupshup. I guess it really depends on the KIND OF people you interact with when you go there..middle class or high class isn't really an issue...there's weirdos in all classes. you just have to mingle with the kind of ppl that are like you
It seems that every1 here goes to a different pakistan. When i recently visited pakistan..I found it just fine! didn't meet or see too many wana-be's or ppl struggling to speak english...they either knew it or didnt...and isn't much to be ashamed of. and it wasn't a high class area of Pakistan..jus normal average ppl. I didn't really see any guys with TIGHT JEANS or paindu girls...as i had read some comments from gupshup. I guess it really depends on the KIND OF people you interact with when you go there..middle class or high class isn't really an issue...there's weirdos in all classes. you just have to mingle with the kind of ppl that are like you
I think most of us who are raised mostly here interact with our families/cousins there..adn they set the bar for the type of ppl we'll come across in pak. My own family is very culturally conservative, and so I come across ppl just like them... i don't doubt that those type of ppl exist, but i have yet to meet them or socialize with them. Maybe for ppl who actually lived there and went to school there have come across the people we read about on here....
I think most of us who are raised mostly here interact with our families/cousins there..adn they set the bar for the type of ppl we'll come across in pak. My own family is very culturally conservative, and so I come across ppl just like them... i don't doubt that those type of ppl exist, but i have yet to meet them or socialize with them. Maybe for ppl who actually lived there and went to school there have those experiences.
Yeah I guess you are right. It's the kind of people you interact with there that sets the bar for you. I was raised here and I hardly ever get a chance to go there...some of the things i read on gupshup did set a different image of pakistan then the one i saw...
But I don't feel the need to really change myself. I find the materialism and constant obsession with appearance really shocking and disturbing. It's much more overt than it is here.
while i agree there are all types of people in pakistan as in any other place, i also find it really disturbing when i find the desi version of "ladies who lunch" everytime i go there. these women are fairly educated (bachelors degrees although i suspect most did not have their hearts in it) and come from fairly comfortable backgrounds financially but there is this constant competition about THINGS, houses, clothes, jewelry, kids, you name it there is competition and petty rivalry. what really bothers me is that these women have no real responsiblities, they have masis and sometimes cooks to take care of the housework, and once the kids are in school they are completely out of their hair as well, so what are these women doing with their lives?? if even half these women dedicated themselves to some type of profession or even social work i have no doubt they would turn the country around!
anyway sorry to rant on your thread :D
i think its all a matter of mentality and attitude, if the guy is willing and open to the idea of meeting new people, learning about how others live, and making new friends then i think he will do just fine! if he is reluctant to mingle or perhaps thinks he's above the pakistani lifestyle then he'll probably have problems