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khawateen · April 20, 2006, 10:20am

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Sad Sadaf: did u post in the “You” section of Jang?

i think the reply u got from the columnist was by far the best…

lollypop_man · April 20, 2006, 10:49am

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Iyou know how shareef girls are. I thought that since he had touched me, only he could be my husband.<<

a little foreplay should endup in a marriage. u dont say.

sad_sadaf · April 20, 2006, 11:36am

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.........Actually ...............
this is is not my own story
I hav just write this as ...... this happen to me
actually this happened to my friend (sara chaudry ).....she is very close to me and shared this with me ........i just feeel lik that as it happened to me
and narrate it ...and consider my self in place of her
while writing the incident ....
MAy God help her .....
and u hav to pray for her future as well
thx alot for ur replies
still there are ppl in this country who can realised
that what is right and what is rong

Mahru · April 20, 2006, 12:42pm

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I don't know if i believe this anymore. Khawateen, thanks for pointing out the jang article to us. So, this was all cut and pasted from a newspaper. How ridiculous.
I understand this is a public forum but still that does not mean to play with our minds. I was so sick worried all day yesterday when i read the story.
Sadaf, first you tried your best to hide her identity and now in your last post you revealed it. What kind of friend are you??? Or are you just enjoying reading comments from ppl when the real basis of this story has nothing to do with you?????

Mehnaz · April 20, 2006, 12:49pm

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twin_born:

hii sadaf ,

Your case is quite complex because you are suffering mentally, emotionally and physically and are firm about blaming yourself for things that you have done in the past. First of all, when one of your sisters was already married into that family, I fail to understand what the fuss was about when you got engaged to the guy. Since you were emotionally involved with the guy, it is understandable that you had to stand for your right about having a say in the matter. The fact that you were involved physically seemed to have tilted the balance for you. You don’t seem to have the notion that our God is not the God of wrath! In fact, He is the most compassionate and merciful. You had made a mistake and could have atoned by asking for forgiveness. Since you chose not to do so, you have started embarking upon guilt trips. You cannot just blame everything that is wrong with your married life on that one indiscretion. You have to face that there are problems of adjustment between you and your husband. Since he apologises to you after doing something crass, it means that he is not totally bad. You have to be firm with him about not abusing you, as it would affect your children too. Don’t take his behaviour lying low just because you believe that God is punishing you for having a relationship with him before you got married. Our religion sets some conditions and limitations for us. Being humans, we tend to stray at times. But the door to forgiveness is open as long as you are sincerely penitent.
If your husband pursues other women, you have to analyse your behaviour too. His behaviour cannot be justified, but the fact that you are a good-looking girl and your husband is still chasing other women so early in the marriage calls for some introspection. Have you honestly tried to give your undivided love and attention to your husband, or have you shown by your behaviour that you accepted him out of guilt? Men are very touchy and possessive by nature. You cannot just give them the impression that they are being tolerated because of one reason or the other, and not expect reaction.
Communication is a key to so many problems, so do try to thrash out your differences by talking to him. Leaving your home is not the answer and should only be considered as a last resort. Be patient and loving towards your hubby without allowing him to ride rough shod over yourself. Both of you have your children to think about and nothing that you have written is so bad that it cannot be remedied. Best of luck!

Even this is a cut and paste response from the Jang article. Good God people.

I am completely with you on this Mahru. This story upset me a lot yesterday and I was thinking about it off and on. I don’t appreciate you messing with us like this “sad_sadaf”.

Femme_Fatale · April 20, 2006, 12:58pm

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funny.

Rush · April 20, 2006, 1:13pm

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:(

desidudecool · April 20, 2006, 1:23pm

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God is not punishing you for letting him touch you before marriage,get that out of your head first cause thats a very backward way of thinking.Your husband is an a hole just divorce him and move on.Life is full of trial and errors,shi t happens,one should be brave enough to make tough decisions and move on.

MYwish · April 20, 2006, 1:28pm

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you know how shareef girls are.
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No, I don't know the shareef family lives in parklane and i havent had a chance to meet the gilrs yet.

Afshi · April 20, 2006, 2:49pm

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so sad pple...like i was telling mahru...it seemed like a hoax to me from the very beginning....

Mahru · April 20, 2006, 3:02pm

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^^ I should have believed you, Mfs555. Instead, i worried my pregnant self over some copy and paste story from Jang Newspaper. Sad-Sadaf, you are not only sad but pathetic too!

S02 · April 20, 2006, 3:16pm

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I was suspicious, but not because of the copy-paste. More because this “new” person to GS used the term “guppy.” I don’t think it’s something that everyone would pick up immediately.

Aish · April 20, 2006, 3:55pm

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What a bunch of retards. This story made me all teary I take my tears back

khawateen · April 20, 2006, 4:44pm

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that’s why i never give my precious advice nor waste precious khatoon worry on new guppies with problems… cuz its always a hoax..

Femme_Fatale · April 20, 2006, 4:47pm

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I just want to know how you found the article Khawateen

musicmaniac · April 20, 2006, 9:19pm

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they should ban him for playing with our emotions. I thought it was real

WitchDr · April 21, 2006, 12:33am

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Even if it is a hoax, what is the big deal. You are not advising, you are putting in your opinion. Should I feel cheated, if it was a hoax? Why??

Sheraz_CT · April 21, 2006, 1:55am

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lol ..its really hard to believe people with few posts

one person copy paste that "problem" from jang and another person pastes the reply to that problem lol so funny

S02 · April 21, 2006, 2:50am

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^ Same person, perhaps?

khawateen · April 21, 2006, 5:44am

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oh haha.. i read the YOU and US sections of Jang religiously.. and also the IMAGES and Cowasjee’s section in DAWN …

beware peeps… BIG KHAW IS WATCHIN U