Re: New generation's marriage issues
Its also fear I think. This is a whole new generation of gals from Pak who are educated and able to earn a good living without having to rely upon a man for survival. They are empowered and ready to take on the world...then, perhaps faced with a family-chosed rista, their dreams of independence turn to dust. Pakistani men can be averse sometimes to a career woman with enough concern that they want their rishta to stay home from the get-go and not get even a taste of that so-heady feeling of independence. This was the case in the 1950s up thru even the 1970s in the west, it was kind of an insult to the husband if the wife worked (even if it was by her choice and not out of necessity). There is SO very much I love about those years and wish I could give my boys the same things I had when growing up...but there were many issues also during that time that I was not aware of.
A smart man would want to have a wife who would not have to resort to finding another man if something should happen to him.