Re: New generation's marriage issues
Girls like to be taken care of, they like their man to be smarter than them, make more money than them, be more educated than them, and probably be more cultured than them. Forget feminism. No matter how much a girl (and i'm talking your average unmarried western brown girl) wants to have equal rights, have equal pay in the workplace etc, she still would prefer to marry a man that makes more than her. And do you know why? because she probably will respect him more if he makes more or if he's more educated. She wants him to be better than her in the things she cares about. Otherwise she looks down on him.
Now what about a guy from back home? If she's lived in the west her whole life, she is familiar with "FOB" jokes, and has probably made some herself. She pretended to have an accent as a joke. She probably thinks she's better than a "fob"- more "cultured"/modern, educated, has more money or knows how to spend it on the right stuff (e.g buy 1 shirt from a nice store and not 10 from walmart) i'm not saying it's true, but I'm saying it's probably why girls have a hard time agreeing to the idea of marrying someone back home. Because they have a hard time respecting someone that fits into a category that they have grown to ridicule, and they will constantly look down on that person.
Also, they might think he'll expect her to stay at home, take care of the kids, do his laundry and cook day and night. A valid fear with serials that paint the perfect bahu as an obedient housewife. But I think mostly when girls are like like OMG i would NEVER marry a paki guy, it's because they (1) don't want to be a 1950's housewife, and (2) think he's an oily haired, accent clad, socially awkward FOB that couldn't measure up to them.