Supposed to be sage advice.
Does it work?
For many I would say yes…it’s good to have resolution before you put your head on your pillow.
For some others, I would have to say definitely not! There are people that need time to get over things that are said and done…
Re: Never go to sleep angry......
In my experience, solving issues before going to bed isn't always a realistic option. At least with my hubby, I know there are times when we've had arguments in the evening or even right before getting ready for bed. On weekdays it's not realistic for us to stay up until late at night to "talk" b/c we both need to be fully alert for our jobs (especially hubby since he needs to be 100% alert when seeing patients). Also, depending on how upset we are....sometime both or one of us needs the night/next day to cool down.
Solving a problem before going to bed isn't a hardcore rule in our house. However, when we go to bed angry.......we always talk/make up the next day when both of us are more calm and have had a chance to process everything that happened and everything that was said.
I think problems should be talked about and solved as soon as possible. But "as soon as possible" doesn't always equal to before bedtime on that same day.
Re: Never go to sleep angry......
^ that makes sense, paheli.
Well, I am still happily single :) But based on my personality, I need time to cool off as well. I actually get very irritated when the other party tries repeatedly to make up "too soon". So although I love the idea of never going to sleep angry, I don't think it's always practical.
Re: Never go to sleep angry......
i can not sleep when i am angry.
Re: Never go to sleep angry......
I think it means incase you die overnight, best to resolve issues before its too late. Because we dnt know when " too late" is.
Re: Never go to sleep angry......
varies ! I used to strictly follow for first couple of years with husband...couldn't sleep in anxiety, long crying spells in the bed while he snored conveniently, waking him up, saying sorry for nothing,etc etc but with time I realised this made him think it was always my fault and all was being taken for granted. I cry too easily,I cannot hold myself from it when I get into arguments (no matter how much I try not to but this is one thing I cannot control) so I hated when I wept into pillow for long and he,despite knowing I was upset,went to sleep and snore. Eventually, I gave up on resolving issues the same day totally. I actually dont care now if it goes on for days. It shouldn't be a one sided effort so I am fine with it now.
so yes, I am totally in favour of getting over anything the same day but it doesn't work in my situation anymore.
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proto ur husband sounds awfully alot like mine just that mine aont a doctor