Neighbours

Lifestyle Relationships
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We got new neighbours and I took a very slow path to get to know them…too many friendships have been messed up and I was really not in the mood to another one of those…

I got to know my new neighbour over the past week as we have been seeing each other more than the early stage when they moved in.

She is also Pakistani and like me she also moved from another European country after her wedding. She doesnt have any family here either just like me. Difference is that her in-laws live closeby while my MIL and FIL in another city far away from here. And her paternal uncle and his family also live here.

I guess thats what made us bond and she has started to tell me her private stuff like how her MIL and SIL behave with her. I have tried my best to give her neutral advices as I dont wanna end up being the bad neighbour who adviced her to do the bad stuff to her MIL or SIL.

what would your take be in such a situation? would you let her talk and talk and just respond neutrally or???

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I’d let her talk, in fact encourage her, record her talks and then blackmail her :k:

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hahahahaha..be serious 6chora :D

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tell her to join GS Life1 ASAP

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mera thmhara mazaq hai? nahi na …it was a serious reply :snooty:

Yeah. Jitnee tiazee sai she has opened with her and bashing MIL, she can join directly as moderator of life1

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True i hereby put forward the resolution to make chameli’s friend the supermod here…

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1 week is too short to do the MIL talk openly... keep ur distant ;)

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i'd end the friendship....i hate such women.

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Don't you have anything about your MIL, SIL, KIL , BIL ? Talk nice about your and make her jealous as to how lucky you are to have such nice KILs AND ILs .

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I bet she is most talked about person in her in-laws :2guns:

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I would listen but dont advise to do one way or another...ever. Stay away from topics related to inlaws.

I have some friends like this but their issue is that they really have no one to talk to...the first person they see who is close to their age gets it. Its natural for a woman to want to identify and feel a connection with another woman.

So, listen because she just may need someone to talk to but dont tell her to do anything. Maybe you could find a friend in her to do things with once in a while...who knows?

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Is she asking for advice or is she just telling you about her in-laws? If she's telling, then maybe she's just venting, and is not looking for advice. In this case, you can just listen, as opposed to giving her advice because you only just met her. If she's asking for advice, then try to keep it neutral and without emotion as there are always two sides to a story.

Too much complaining (even about in-laws) can be draining. So, you can even try to subtly change the subject to a more light-hearted topic.

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thanks redvelvet. your advices are always to the point :)

I guess she just needed to vent. She is 8 and half months pregnant and going through lots of emotional ups and downs and was feeling very alone. so she met me and probably felt that we are in similar situation as I am also pregnant and dont have any family here besides my husband.

I tried to put things into perspective by asking her to reflect about her vision of life, what she wants to acheive rather than letting others decide for her...not really an advice but just a general comment...

I dont want to get into all her in-laws issues as it can be draining...