**I want to have a positive attitude in life…when it comes to looking at the two sides of the picture, i’ll only focus on the negatives and then get obsessed by it… If itz about a person,relationship,job,marriage anything , i always focus too much on the negatives and due to this i have already invited too many troubles in my life…
I am aware of this attitude in me and i want to get over with it but i dunno how can i do this!!How can i build up positive thoughts in me,rejecting the negative ones???
One reason that i think of my negative thinking is that i have been brought up under difficult situations..my childhood had been the worst part of my life and i don’t want to remember it even…
I want to change my mental attitude, i know that blinded by my own negativity, i fail to see positive things around me…
** I want sincere advice and help from u people..thanks…
Youre not alone, There are plenty of people who feel the same everyday. I was a lot like what you just described, but I found some ways to get over it.
Everyone gets negative thoughts, but its how you respond to these thoughts that create the difference between a winner and a loser. Happy people are those who are consistently able to find positives from one of the most depressing situations. Also, try to adapt the following rules in life:
1- Eveything happens for a reason and purpose, and it serves us.
2- There is no such thing as failure.
3- Whatever happens, take responsibility.
4- There is nothing good or bad; Only thinking makes it so!
And dont have any regrets in life. You are unique, different, and only God can judge you. Also, try to eat chocolates more often. They really help to reduce the gloomy/depressive thoughts.
On a serious note, I am the same way. Maybe you do need some from of therapy. It sounds like you have a problem that you are fully aware of, but you just need guidance on how to change your habits. I personally always assume the worse in every situation which often leads to disaster. Just something to consider.
On a serious note, I am the same way. Maybe you do need some from of therapy. It sounds like you have a problem that you are fully aware of, but you just need guidance on how to change your habits. I personally always assume the worse in every situation which often leads to disaster. Just something to consider.
yup i know i need a therapy..but wat therapy?by whom?
and i dun want to indulge into anti-depressants and make my life more miserable:(
Neha… What I know about you is I always feel you are Very samjhdar Masha ALLAH..
But still i know in some ways or other we feel negativity. I have been trying this for so long to try to see bright side of every thing.. But when we are wronged by someone we cant really help.. and we feel all those hate pain negativity, I think the best way to avoide negativity is just dont Think about that problem/ situation/ conversation which brings negative points in your mind…
Just try to ignore and move one … you can do this because i know you are samjhdar
yup i know i need a therapy..but wat therapy?by whom?
and i dun want to indulge into anti-depressants and make my life more miserable:(
awww. Well therapists don’t describe medicine. They help you figure out healthy ways to coop with your issues. Or maybe you can join an Islamic class, or read the Quran in English. I always feel much more positive after reading or praying.
usually thoughts like these came into mind when you have recently done something you shouldn't have done OR you got nothing to do. i say get a hobby you are passionate about, what did you wanna do when you were young (learning language, cooking course, learning drawing etc etc).
I am my self alot like this actually, thinking negatives before positives and if there is 95% positive about something and 5 percent negative, only thinking about that 5 % all the time. I actually liked oldboy's post, he have some good points there...
As a lot of people mentioned, this is something very common in almost eveyone to have negative thoughts and to worry about negative side of things than thinking positively. I feel it too in myself a lot of times. *This is absolutely normal, and I can assure you, you won't even need a therapy to get over it. *
As someone mentioned above, usually the negativity fills your mind up if you have done something you shouldn't have, or have daily-life habits that are obsessive and un-necessary, or usually when you have nothing much to do except think. But I guess as you have mentioned, in your case its mostly because you had a troubled childhood.
A few things that can help you think positive or atleast keep the negativity away are:
Dedicate some time to praying and making duas. Try to put all your heart and mind into it when you are praying.
Find a hobby that won't bore you. Find some activity to keep yourself busy.
Do not think much about your childhood problems. Even if the thoughts come, try to think of them as not a big deal. Be calm about them. Don't fight them, because its hard to ignore such things. Deal with them by thinking of whatever makes you happy.
Eat. Eat whatever you like. Seriously it helps. (Try to avoid junk foods though.)
Drink a good amount of water throughout your day.
Sleep well.
Try to get rid of un-usual and obsessive daily-life habits, if you feel you have any.
I often find I may be annoyed/down for a short while but then get over it. At that point I remind myself that this situation is out of my control and if th situation is not out of my control then I will look to see how I can go about turning it into a positive one.
I have realised that putting converting the negativity into doing something proactive to better the situation does wonder and it took me a while to implement it.
**thanks to all of u for giving the advice and the tips to get over this...
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As a lot of people mentioned, this is something very common in almost eveyone to have negative thoughts and to worry about negative side of things than thinking positively. I feel it too in myself a lot of times. This is absolutely normal, and I can assure you, you won't even need a therapy to get over it.
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but i wonder whether itz a disorder or wat coz as i was going thru different sites and the characteristics that i just mentioned are of the Negativistic Personality or Passive-Aggressive Disorder and this is the thing that made me alert and i thot that i need to see some psychiatrist...
i agree with old boy that we all experience this thing often but someone who always experiences it, must be having some disorder....
Praying can cure many troubles i know and i will IA do that ...
