I think if you really are that person's friend that you will suck it up and be there for them...cause you know that if you were in that situation they would be there for you...and it hopefully won't last forever....
What if that person wasn't there for you during a tough time of yours, or even a happy time? They abandoned you, deliberately.
Friendship was never easy. The true meaning of friendship is to be there for each other in good times n bad. So take it as a bad patch in your friend's life n deal with it like you would with your own. At the same time give her space and time to heal on her own too. Just don't give her any thing from your side which could make her unhappier. Try your best to understand her and deal her accordingly. For example, if she gets angry over a very small issue you just have to be a bigger person n say sorry and then later when she cools down you try n make her realise that she needs to sort herself out (ofcourse in a much better way :D) but that u r there to help her in any which way possible.
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I dunno if i agree with that or not. I always thought its supposed to be effortless..if its this hard, then is it really worth it?
The thing is, I know this person who has been in a "bad place" since i've known them for 8 years. I understand they've had a tough upbringing, and family problems...but i dont know what im trying to say here xactly....
1- there is nothing demeaning in sara's post
2- good advise from others
3- give them and yourself space, check in, but dont get sucked into long venting sessions, because you can only be a crutch for so long for their own sake..tough love has to be used sometimes too. dont abandon, but dont think just because someone is going through tough time u have to always have things go their way..or bend over backwards..unless the individual is really immature they understand people's needs and commitments, even if they lash out at first
Yup...only so much one can be used as a crutch. This is the first time i've been on that side--i know there were so many people who put up wiht my crap in the past...and im so thankful to them...but i realize now how awful it must have been for me t keep bothering them....