ok so like most of you already probably know im getting married in June inshallah and before i had planned on going to pakistan december 12 or was it 9. I kno it was on eid so my eid would have been in the airplane.
so yesturday my paretns and i were talking and they said to go to pakistan in MAY thts one month before the wedding.
My wedding outfits will be done and with my by march Bunto said that shes going to ship them to me in March so the only thing im basically be doing is jahez shopping and my sisters and moms clothes.
do u think thts to late. Some of the aunties in my town said i was going to get sick and be tired for my wedding which is June 19 inshallah wht do you guys think.
i think may is cutting it too close, frankly. you might get sick considering the food/water there, you might not get all your clothes done in time and have to come back with not much (and you'll need some of them at least for immediately after the wedding), and isn't may the start of the load shedding season?
honestly, i wouldn't go a month before- can you go two months before? thats still giving you some time to prep and also there are so many last minute arrangements to make before your wedding, its just better to be in town so you can deal with them, and more importantly, also have some time to spend with your family before you officially "leave", you know? the last month is pretty hectic and goes by so fast!
If you can't spare any more time (and you have relatives there to help with the planning), its definitely doable.
When my sister got married in Srinagar a few years ago, she flew in with my brother and I just 4 days before the mehndi raat. Granted, all the clothes had been purchased in Karachi months beforehand, and our relatives there had already planned out most of the wedding with my parents over the phone, and my parents had gone a 10 days before us to iron out the last minute details. Things were VERY hectic, but everthing went smoothly in the end.
I'm sure 1 month would be sufficient...just be ready to be very busy in the days leading up to the event :)
I would go in December if I were you. I just can't leave things for the last minute. Besides, you would have ample time to have things shipped to you in time for the wedding that you like but are not ready by teh time you leave. Trust me there will be many things that you will like. SGC is right, the load shedding season is awful there. Right now the conditions there are not too bad, who knows what will happen after a few months better to get every thing done now when you don;t have a million things on your mind reagding teh wedding preparations back home.
If your parents don't let you in Dec for whichever reason then yhy don't you go around March/April for a few weeks? Till then try to get everything done from here. Im still trying to decide on a date for Miami, when Im there, tell me what I can help you with.
I would rather spend Eid in a plane than do my wedding shopping a month before the wedding. Load shedding will defnitely affect your trip. Plus, not all kaam walas will give you the jahez stuff on time so it's better to leave some room between the trip and the actual wedding.
lol u guys are right but theres soo many different things that come in between for example...my school schedule, eid and plus dec is wedding season so many darzi will probably not be able to get everythign done for me. Atleast i know that the clothes i do bring back are going to be right in season, and also i talked to my sas about changing the date to July.
You guys are completely right but im just so sick of all this planning i kinda dont care as much anymore. My mom says i need to rest before the wedding and if i go to pakistan a month before there are chances i might be sick so shes unsure but my dad says its better in may !
IM SOO LOST
and thanks so much Shay, i will definately let you know. I already assigned people on certain task so i dont have to worry...but i kno im still going to have to make sure things get done.
inshallah everything will be ok
girly one more advice. heere in pakistan everything is disaster.. bythe way who ever said that may is load shedding season..LOLZ.. v are in load shedding since last 2 years n dont knw till whht time it will be like this..
if ur coming to pak in may so ..make all big tasks done b4 ur here.
and plz dont think abut darzies..... at all.. if u have to buy cloths go for readymade.i gave just 2 dresses and they took a month just for the emoidry?? all becoz of this gr8 loadshedding they have more excuses, prepate ur self for all thses type of tensions here in pak! goodLUCK!
lol u guys are right but theres soo many different things that come in between for example...my school schedule, eid and plus dec is wedding season so many darzi will probably not be able to get everythign done for me. Atleast i know that the clothes i do bring back are going to be right in season, and also i talked to my sas about changing the date to July.
You guys are completely right but im just so sick of all this planning i kinda dont care as much anymore. My mom says i need to rest before the wedding and if i go to pakistan a month before there are chances i might be sick so shes unsure but my dad says its better in may !
IM SOO LOST
and thanks so much Shay, i will definately let you know. I already assigned people on certain task so i dont have to worry...but i kno im still going to have to make sure things get done.
inshallah everything will be ok
hmmm a month before the wedding can be both emotionally and physically stressful; yes Miami is super hot, but can never be as hot as Pak and you certainly do not want to risk getting sick a month before. but then again you are saying that you have school etc that's coming in between. If I were to choose between December and May--would decide on December-most probably there would be more variety when shopping since its wedding season, the weather's brilliant (less chance of getting sick) and in May you can focus on yourself, give time to your family, and get ready for the big day:)
If your wedding is in June, then a month with family/friends’ help is ample time. June is completely off season for weddings and darziz, jewelers, craftsmen not only have plenty of time of their hands, they also ‘want’ more work so they are nicer and more eager to do things for you – and do them right. I wish I could do mine is June for these reasons but I can’t stand the heat. You should be fine.. And Congratulations!
And Congratulations! 