Assuming someone has made a mistake by violating his/her spouse trust, should they confess and ask for forgiveness or carry their guilt in private? Iam reluctant to give details cause its not something to talk about, but for reference and proper perspective it was a disgraceful and deceitful act for which the guilty person is extremely sorry. Since this is something which cannot be discussed with family or friends, I was hoping this forum will be able to give some advise…what should the guilty person say or do?
Not agree with u both. I think a person make mistakes and they deserve 2nd chance.
So why dont ask ur spouse for forgiveness. U rather can tell him about this situation then he founds out from someone else.
You will be living with a fear for rest of your life always going what if he finds out. What if finds out after 20 years of wedding and decides to leave you then?
Tell him or her. I personally believe in 100% honesty even if it is brutal. Lying is haram and trust me the fact that you are hiding it will affect every aspect of your relationship with the personal, emotionally, psychologically and physically.
Tell her or him whatever it is and just pray they care enough about you to forgive them. You owe them the truth.
Thanks to verizon/gadha princ I read your earlier thread.
Your wife does'nt know what you did and she suspects nothing. Maybe your wife has also done things that you don't suspect. It'd be interesting to see her confess after you confess. When that happens, do share that moment with us. We guppies love such juicy stories.