I have a 7 years old cousin. she is in year one. she used to be very active and cool girl.
she always wanted to stay at our house as we allow her play alot, eat wat she wants and take her out alot as well. she has one little bro and sis. she used to be very close to my little sis and stays in her room. she used to help in the kitchen and so eager to do all the work.
her mum, my aunty is so dumb. her husband earns alot, but he has to support his family in pak as well. his brothers are good for nothing and dont do anything.
aunty is so stressed out about it as all her inlaws do is ask for money every 2nd day and they live very good life. uncle sends most of his earnings to pak.
but he tells her to buy whatever she wants for kids and no restriction on her spending.
aunty doesnt let kids enjoy their life. she rarely buys them any toy or takes them out. wont let them celebrate their birthdays. we tell her to change herself. she is so diet concious and wont let kids be kids. we try to buy kids clothes and toys but howmuch can we do. we cant replace their parents or take their place.
when they come to our house, they act like coming out of cage. would sit in kitchen and eat too much and than end up vomiting. than she would make this an excuse for not letting them eat.
we always argue with her and than she gets angry with us and leave. we tell her to give everthing to her kids as she puts too much restrictions on them they act this way.
but recently my cousins she has changed alot. she acts so dumb. like yeterday i told her to finish her homework, i was standing there for 20min and she wasnt listening to me and kept playing. i told her to pack things up, finish her work, than play again. but she showed no emotion and continued with playing. i ended up shouting at her but no luck.
than her mum came, she hit her on her face twice so hard, and she got up. i was in such a shock as why they are behaving like this. everyone in my family was in shock. she grew up in our hands and we always take her side.
her mum told me and i witnessed it, whenever someone tells her that she is making a mistake in her homework or in her Qaida, she would start to cry for no reason say that its not wrong. she would cry for no reason whenever any one asks her for anything. he face looks so dull.
the other day her brother fell on coffee table and injured his face so close to his eye and started to bleed very badly. he was saying she pushed him and she started to cry. i was telling her not to cry and becareful next time as he couldnt have lost his eye as it was so close to his eye. but she continued to cry not listen to what i was saying. so i left her alone.
whenever aunty tells me about her behaviour, i would never believe aunty and blamed aunty.
aunty does put too much pressure on her kids. like she has to finish her one page of her Quaranic Qaida everyday at mosque. she goes to mosque 4 days a week for 1 hour with my sis.
has to do extra studies all the time.
i totally dont know whats going on with her. i tried to talk to her and she wasnt listening to what i was saying.
i want to help her and change her behaviour but how. her mum is weired. i dont know if her parents behaviour is affecting her or what?