Need tips on bride's sister's outfit

[Paheli00]

Re: Need tips on bride’s sister’s outfit

@Sara516

When someone already has self esteem issues, then their weight can be something to be ashamed of. YOU may not be ashamed of your weight because it may be considered healthy/normal for you, but if you were overweight/obese for whatever reason…I’m sure you wouldn’t want to share your #.

You could have just asked how to play up a larger figure/darker skin tone without going into your sister’s medical history/self esteem issues/writing her weight.

I agree with the first part. That’s why we have forums where we post without revealing our identities. If I have posted her picture or name or other details to identify her…then yes…that would be wrong of me.

And for the 2nd part:

1. Different people have different definations of “overweight” and “darker skin tone”…especially among desis. I wanted to be as specific as possible.
2. What “medical history” did I reveal? That the weight gain is due to medications? My reason behind it? I didn’t want anyone to suggest that she could lost the weight. After all…it’s not like people actually read the original post and stick to the actual question being asked. As clearly shown by several responses…people like to read-between the lines and talk about things that has nothing to do with what a OP is asking about.

My intent behind including details was so there would not be any misunderstanding or derailing of the thread. My mistake was thinking that I could actually post a serious question and get serious answers only. But its ok. I don’t expect everyone “approval” of my methods. I’ve gotten some helpful tips and am grateful for that.