my mistake but samia less talk is nice thing bcoz its my personal experience that lot of talk before marriage create fuss for you. Like one of my friend got engaged in early age and talk with her fiance late night and then weekly meetings etc etc. But after marriage he came to me very disturbed that his spouse is not happy with her. i said why he said yaar before marriage we made many plan of loving and etc. but after marriage telling you honestly i'm not much attracted in her. I tried my best to be act as a fiance but can't. I get sleepy just 9 O clock and she complain that before you talked with me late night and now every night you don't talk with me this &that. So I mean to say its good that you are not talking with him a lot and both of you don't have great expectation between you so I hope so InshaAllah after marriage every thing will be settled down.
But one thing why he don't talk with you bcoz of his family ????
I guess the best solution for you would be to do an istakhara to know what kind of a marriage you'll have eventually. If the result is good, then talk straight to him and explain that you would like more frequent communication with him.
it's all right yeah I heard that if you talk more often than there's more problems after shaadi but when it comes to my bhai and bhabhi I think they're doing much better than us they talk every day twice and still happy and seems like they're the only one who's really in love
maybe bcz of his family maybe not I don't know that's why I'm saying that I don't know anything about him what he likes what he's not what he feels what not so I'm confuse when he calls me after 2/3 months he's okay he ask me to come pak but some reason we can't go to pak to get married so I always said Inshallah we will come soon that's the only thing make him mad that we can't go there and he's like now it's too long we been enageged now we should get married I wish I can explain you more wildly what I mean.
I think i'm picking up his/your point. but one point did he show anger on the point that why you are not coming to Pakistan to get married??? Is he planning to come USA or you will stay over there after marriage (which I think no).
I can't because I respect my parents Decision and I don't want to put my parents down front of relatives. and now it's too late to take this step..lolz
So if there is no point of return then don't think -ve things bcoz after marriage it will effect on your relation with you husband.
yeah sometime he gets angry but it's not his fault mere parents har bar kehtay thay pakistan ka planning be hoti thi but some reason nehi ja saktay thay tu than he gets mad yeah he wants to come to US but it's not big deal for me ager main kisi say be pakistan say shaadi karti tu woh be US ayna chahta don't you think so?
Me & My brother never think like this .... My brother get engaged with my cousin in UK and she also said to live in Pakistan. I ve always debate with my brother that he is not doing good to get married with her and think that she will live her in Pakistan but i don't know what will be result but my prays are with them.
Even me don't wanna settle abroad and wants to stay in my home town but i know i can't stay over there becoz of my job ..... anyway its depend on the nature of boys and yes you are right most of boz are mad abt abroad.
you have made your nick with you real name :nono: