Re: Need suggestion...especially from working wives:)
I agree with sumorani.
Its hard to suggest a middle ground because that requires everything around you to be perfectly balanced at all times. Thats hard because your husband will work, you will have residency, kids will need you at home and lets not forget housework. No matter how much he helps out, he cant make it perfect for you. :) If you try to do all at once, someone will suffer: you, your kids, your husband or your home.
Talk to your husband and see if he agrees to postponing children until after your residency. If he doesnt, then you might have to be open to postponing your residency.