Re: Need suggestion...especially from working wives:)
The problem that you have is that you want everything. You want kids right away, you also want to take care of them and you also want a time consuming career and at the same time do not want to put the kids in a non-muslim daycare. At some point you are going to have to compromise. As great as your husband may sound, him sayign that he will take care of the kids is wishful thinking. If you both have jobs it will be very difficult for any one person to take care of the kids specially since both of u will be working most likely in the day time, with only the husband there durign the evnings, and you late at night cuz of ur residency.
What I would suggest for you to do is wait to have kids atleast until your residency is complete. I would want to raise my kids at all and it doenst matter to me if its a muslim or non muslim day care, I just feel much more comforatble with raisign kids myself and maybe having a nanny at home if I need help specially if I do have a job.
Residencies are grueling, I dont understand why a woman would wanna have a kid before that cuz you will definitely be spending barely any time with the kid. With kids come a lot of responsibilities. You definitely need to compromise and I would suggest instead of halting your career midway, you have kids at a later stage in your life.