Re: Need suggestion...especially from working wives:)
This decision is a pretty personal one, but I really wanted to get my education and some work experience before having kids. Part of thatwas because I would like to stay home at least for the first few years, once the baby arrives. For me, working when my children are a little older will be hectic but my hours will be like theirs (I'm a teacher). For doctors, the demands are different depending on the type of medicine you are practicing.
Anyway, I do think that if you've gotten this far, why not complete the degree? Once you get married you will have your fiance's company.
Remember that babies are not just cute cuddly toys. They are human beings that we help to raise and shape. Our actions toward them are incredibly critical, and until we are ready to handle that responsibility, I think it's best to wait. So think about your time commitments, and whether or not you are ready to give time and energy to a child immediately upon getting married. I knew I wasn't ready, despite how much I love kids. And as a teacher I see a lot the consequences of early childhood care and upbringing, and I see babies as who they could become, and I guess I approached motherhood with a lot of hesitation and thought. I really didn't want to rush into it and be unprepared or to feel like I hadn't had a chance to cultivate myself before devoting myself to another human being.
As for housework, in our household it's shared, since we are both working. If I cook, hubby cleans. But I don't cook if I'm too exhausted. We also hired a cleaning service that comes every couple of weeks to give the house a good scrub. Then all we need to do in between is keep it neat. It is good to talk about these sorts of issues and it's nice that you have a good understanding with your hubby. It'll make all the difference.