Re: need some serious guidance
Its a very hard thing to change a habit thats been ingrained for years. But you CAN. Make rules for yourself and stick to it:
Before speaking:
-take a deep breath, breathe in, breathe out.
-count to 5
-think of something serene like a calm lake or a sunset over the mountains.
THEN speak. Do this for every sentence, for every single reply, for every conversation you start.
This is difficult for sure. Write it down. Practice. Reward yourself when you do it successfully, punish yourself a little bit when you dont follow your rules.
but never forget
you CAN do it!