Re: need some serious guidance
My brother made only one request when he got married "I want a woman with no tongue" because he had 4 sisters who talked all the time!
Its normal for women to be more talkative than others and not all women are 'blessed' with soft voices.
I have a habit of talking very fast when I get engrossed into my conversations and my hubby also hated it. It was only when I was doing teacher training that my instructor pointed this flaw out to me as well and that is when I decided to do something about it.
I actively listen to myself talking and try to control the speed and tone of my voice using delibrate words. I am not 100% successful but with time and practise you will learn to improve.
Practise at home by speaking out aloud (I used to have conversations with myself or practise a lesson I was preparing out loud). Use the children as practise as well.
It is hard for men to understand that you cant just change over night but perhaps you should try to reduce your conversation with him and in front of him with others until you feel you have better control.
Dont fret and this is nothing to panic over. Use this as a great excuse to find other ways to communicate with him like writing notes, emails, and small post its etc...
To quote a great line from Hitch, the movie "60% of all human communication is nonverbal, body language; 30% is your tone, so that means 90% of what you're saying ain't coming out of your mouth."