great advice, i think you shoudl defo try this out
And please dnt worry u arent the only one in this situation, my cuzn got married a few back ,and she talks just the way u described about ureself and her husband in and in-laws spoke alot more softly, her husband gets so annoyed at her, but she's mellowed down a bit, but when her husband does complain she tells him that he has to like her 4 who she is, and the fact that it was a love marriage he should have noticed this b4 he asked 4 her hand in marriage!
Gud luck