I have the same question Zareenkhan, its very hard to digest that you have a six month old baby. How do you get time to think so much and be furious all the time? I thought children soften you up. If you have a good bond with your child, you shouldn't really be feeling this emotional bleakness and emptiness certainly to the extent you are describing. Babies are absolutely joy and blessing, I've seen people get over their biggest miseries and troubles with addition of child in their life. I've seen babies being the total remedy of all sorts of marital problems in some people's life and what you are describing here is nothing. Not that things go away, but they just learn to ignore it and value what they have and be busy and be happy.
I'd suggest you to focus being a good mother, a happy mother, and more importantly a grown up woman. Stop wasting your time competing with your SIL and MIL.
I think it's difficult for people to take you seriously because you have too many threads complaining - with that said, I shall say no offense to you :)
I have the same question Zareenkhan, its very hard to digest that you have a six month old baby. How do you get time to think so much and be furious all the time? I thought children soften you up. If you have a good bond with your child, you shouldn't really be feeling this emotional bleakness and emptiness certainly to the extent you are describing. Babies are absolutely joy and blessing, I've seen people get over their biggest miseries and troubles with addition of child in their life. I've seen babies being the total remedy of all sorts of marital problems in some people's life and what you are describing here is nothing. Not that things go away, but they just learn to ignore it and value what they have and be busy and be happy.
I'd suggest you to focus being a good mother, a happy mother, and more importantly a grown up woman. Stop wasting your time competing with your SIL and MIL.
It is true. My daughter has totally changed our households for the better and really brought happiness and light in. BUT I do think that if there is a strain at all between husband and wife, the baby can exacerbate it. During the first year, the fatigue, strain on expenses, time, new responsibilities did cause some tensions between hubby and me, which Alhamdullallah we were able to work out, but it does require some effort and maturity.
...And thats the whole point, she should be so preoccupied with all the baby related stress that she shouldn't really have the mental emptiness to always destructively expect her husband to act like a teenage lover playing a role of Romeo. (and I thought its men who complain about their wives not giving them enough attention after becoming mothers) Its her who should be so overwhelmed by motherhood and her baby's development to the extent that every itsy bitsy is not enough push her to the corner. A normal and mature woman should ideally spend her free time smiling and playing with her baby, instead being so furious about everything and everybody. If she can't find refuge in motherhood and leading a frustrated and gloomy marital life, then she obviously needs some counseling, having read nadz' all pre baby threads as well, I think she must consider the option of therapy.